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EPISODE · Sep 24, 2025 · 41 MIN

The Mental Load Has Fallen Back On Me - Here’s What I’m Doing About It

from After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

You’re carrying it all - the school forms, the meals, the birthdays, the appointments - all living inside your head while everyone else just… shows up? That’s the invisible mental load. And right now, despite having a 50/50 partnership style home, the mental load has fallen back on me (Kristin), again. But here’s the thing: this isn’t a story about blame. This is a story about change. About refusing to drown, and about building a system that actually works for everyone.In this solo episode, I share the science behind why the mental load tends to always fall on moms, how it crushes so many marriages, and the moment I realized I couldn’t keep going this way. Plus, 4 steps I’m taking right now to reclaim balance and rebuild true partnership in my home. You’ll walk away with the exact script, the reset ritual, and a step-by-step plan you can use tonight to get the load off of you, and start sharing tasks. This isn’t just about surviving the mental load, it’s about finally taking back control, one week at a time.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit www.expressable.com/BEDTIME to find the perfect speech therapist and get started on your child's communication journey.Visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings or use gift code FEELINGS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 to join using our link get a $100 credit toward their membership.Visit perelelhealth.com. New customers can enjoy 20% off their first order with the code BEDTIME.Try ZipRecruiter for FREE at ZIPRECRUITER.COM/FEELINGS!Head to WAYFAIR.COM right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You’re carrying it all - the school forms, the meals, the birthdays, the appointments - all living inside your head while everyone else just… shows up? That’s the invisible mental load. And right now, despite having a 50/50 partnership style home, the mental load has fallen back on me (Kristin), again. But here’s the thing: this isn’t a story about blame. This is a story about change. About refusing to drown, and about building a system that actually works for everyone.In this solo episode, I share the science behind why the mental load tends to always fall on moms, how it crushes so many marriages, and the moment I realized I couldn’t keep going this way. Plus, 4 steps I’m taking right now to reclaim balance and rebuild true partnership in my home. You’ll walk away with the exact script, the reset ritual, and a step-by-step plan you can use tonight to get the load off of you, and start sharing tasks. This isn’t just about surviving the mental load, it’s about finally taking back control, one week at a time.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit www.expressable.com/BEDTIME to find the perfect speech therapist and get started on your child's communication journey.Visit www.functionhealth.com/feelings or use gift code FEELINGS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 to join using our link get a $100 credit toward their membership.Visit perelelhealth.com. New customers can enjoy 20% off their first order with the code BEDTIME.Try ZipRecruiter for FREE at ZIPRECRUITER.COM/FEELINGS!Head to WAYFAIR.COM right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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