The Most Important Love Language No One Talks About: Repair

Shownotes What most people don't realize about the happiest couples The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma How to never get ghosted again What exactly relationship repair is and why it's important Why repair is an ongoing practice Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully   Bio Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.    She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya's approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.    Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.    Learn more about Baya's work on Instagram @bayavoce.   Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair 00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership 00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:01 - What people don't realize about the happiest couples 00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections 00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma 00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you're in a manipulative relationship 00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges 00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship 00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization 00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:39:29 - The end of a partner's capacity teaches you how strong you are 00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again 00:50:57 - Explore the magic of  MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship 01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it's important 01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective 01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice 01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair 01:28:49 - Conclusion