The Mother Daughter Journey Part 1: What Happens To Our Relationship When They Turn 9?

Send us Fan Mail**To sign up for the emerging writers workshop, click here:https://www.motherplusser.com/writing-workshop **In this episode, we cover:As parents, we can't help but project "our stuff" onto our children: Deb talks about "conscious adulting," in which we show up responsible for who we are and invite our children to learn how to be exactly who they are.Deb gives us a crash course in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, which is Steph's favorite kind of therapy and large part of the book she's writing. Deb calls it "the most self-compassionate type of therapy."In The Mother Daughter Journey workshops, Deb works with mothers of 9-17 year-old daughters to navigate the changes that happen to relationships during this time, including the inevitable grief that comes with the transition out of childhood. Deb talks about how we need to continually fine-tune how we communicate with our daughters so that we are not falling into an "outdated version of connection."We learn about the significance of "the mother line," in which we pass things down generationally that may not belong to us and may need to be set down. In this episode, we interview Deb Rubin, a Boulder-based therapist and facilitator of The Mother Daughter Journey workshops. Deb is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and has worked in numerous therapeutic job settings, as well as sexual health education, consciously blending the best of both Eastern and Western theories into her practice. In the first half of our two-part conversation with Deb, we talk about what it means to take a deep look at ourselves as parents, bringing compassion and consciousness to ourselves and our children. **To sign up for the emerging writers workshop, click here:https://www.motherplusser.com/writing-workshop **To learn more about Deb, visit: https://motherdaughterjourney.co/WHERE TO FIND US NOWConnect with Stacey🎧 The Next Phase Podcast —  on Apple & Spotify 📸 Instagram: @stacehutsonConnect with Steph🎧 The Peri-Normal Podcaston Apple and Spotify✍️ The Reclamation Eraon Substack📝 MidCircle— a writing community for midlife women📸 Instagram: @stephsprenger