The Myth of Ownership

What if the greatest source of suffering isn't love itself, but our belief that we can possess what was never ours to own? In this episode of Skin & Soul, Gwenm sits down with author, entrepreneur, and creator of the viral EroticSleepOver events, Cidney G. Green, for a provocative conversation about freedom, attachment, desire, and the stories we inherit about love. Drawing from her book All 3 in Me, Cidney shares how Nichiren Buddhism shaped her understanding of attraction, identity, and personal responsibility. Together, they explore the tension between intimacy and freedom, the challenge of unlearning control, and why so many of us confuse love with ownership. This is not a conversation about whether non-monogamy is right or wrong. It's a deeper inquiry into what happens when we stop expecting other people to complete us, save us, choose us, or make us happy. From relationships and jealousy to spirituality, self-sovereignty, and the many parts of ourselves we carry beneath the surface, this episode invites us to examine where we grip too tightly and what becomes possible when we finally loosen our hold. Topics include: • The myth of ownership in love and relationships• Buddhism and personal responsibility• Attraction, identity, and self-reflection• Unlearning control and attachment• Non-monogamy and freedom• Jealousy, desire, and emotional honesty• The many selves we carry within us• What it means to live authentically on your own terms• Self-sovereignty and the pursuit of happiness A bold, honest, and thought-provoking conversation about love, freedom, and the parts of ourselves that are still learning how to let go.