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EPISODE · May 11, 2026 · 57 MIN

The Need For Approval: Part 1

from Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre · host Hilary & Les

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment!We talk about approval as a learned addiction that quietly trains us to trade our self-worth for other people’s reactions. We use family stories, social media examples, and a parenting study to separate appreciation from identity and move toward self-acceptance. • approval as something we try to control through other people’s responses • how childhood emotional gaps create a habit of external validation • the mismatch between how we want approval and how others show it • worth feeling conditional on behavior and becoming a self-regulation system • dopamine hits that reinforce people pleasing and performance • dropping blame by seeing “programs” passed down with good intentions • the protective part that seeks disapproval to justify old pain • how roles like “the cook” become identity through praise • confidence as peaceful self-trust rather than swagger or self-promotion • why reading comments can magnify disapproval and shrink joy • using observations instead of praise or criticism to support creativity • turning the need for approval into connection and collaboration Support the showWe  hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes.  Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us [email protected] your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

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