The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher — Chapter 4: Control Yourself

Do you know the last fruit of the Spirit mentioned in Galatians 5? It is the theme of today’s podcast from chapter 4 in The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher, Control Yourself. Fisher explains the two phases of every argument, ignition (aka fight or flight) and cooling (aka rest & digest).“Ignition happens when, with enough friction, the productive becomes destructive.”In this phase, the prefrontal cortex functions little to nothing. This explains why so many unkind and  unthinkable comments are growled and often yelled, the decision-making part of the brain is out to lunch. Connects with a couple of idioms,  “I put my foot in my mouth” and “He put his foot in it.” The Next Conversation will help us eliminate those instances!“Friction offers room for improvement. Because what triggers you teaches you.”Here is Fisher’s breakdown of triggers:Physical triggers-most noticeable, impact your sense of well-beingPsychological triggersSocial triggers - worried about how others perceive youPersonal identity threats - A. Competence, B. Autonomy, C. Purpose, & D. ValueLoss If you learn to understand your body’s reactions and ups and downs, you’ll also be able to recognize the triggers of others. “They aren’t behaviors to get offended over. They’re information to gather.”Remember, what triggers you teaches you, if you’re willing to learn…If you want to put out fires, find their trigger.” It’s a win win, are you ready to dive in? Blessings!