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EPISODE · Aug 7, 2023 · 30 MIN

The one thing to never say when setting boundaries

from The Dr. Leaf Show · host Dr. Caroline Leaf

Pre-order my new book HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD CLEAN UP THEIR MENTAL MESS here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.mentallyresilientkids.com  +Pre-order before August 8 to get access to bonus content!  SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about the importance of teaching your child about boundaries. This is part 2 of my series on parenting, boundaries, and mental health. Part one can be found here. Whenever you, as a parent or caregiver, set a boundary, make sure that you always explain why in a way that your child will understand. Use the moment to model healthy boundaries for your child and teach them what a healthy boundary looks like, using language that encourages your child to think about the situation and what it means. Avoid using language that shuts them down such as saying “because I said so”, which will make the boundary feel more like a punishment than a teaching opportunity.  Read the blog here: ⁠https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/how-to-set-boundaries-while-still-respecting-validating-emotions OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS:  -AquaTru: 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to https://AquaTru.com  and enter code DRLEAF at checkout. Plus AquaTru comes with a 30-day Money-Back Guarantee so if you don’t like it just send it back for a refund, minus shipping.  Turn back time on the appearance of your skin with Purity Woods’s Age-Defying Dream Cream! Go to puritywoods.com/DRLEAF or enter code DRLEAF at checkout for 10% off your first order.  Just go to Zocdoc.com/LEAF and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.  EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 1:00, 5:00 How to help your child clean up their mental mess 7:25 How to set boundaries with your child 8:20 Why it is always important to explain the “why” behind a boundary 9:40 Why we should avoid “Because I said so!” statements 12:00, 17:48 How to use boundaries as a learning experience for your child  19:00 What happens when we don’t set boundaries with our children 22:45, 25:02 How to validate what your child is feeling while setting boundaries  ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:  -Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com  -Get a free Cleaning up Your Mental Mess workbook when you subscribe to my weekly email at drleaf.com!  - Visit my website at https://drleaf.com for more free resources  -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf  -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf  -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/drcarolineleaf  *DISCLAIMER: This podcast and blog are for educational purposes only and are not intended as medical advice. We always encourage each person to make the decision that seems best for their situation with the guidance of a medical professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pre-order my new book HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD CLEAN UP THEIR MENTAL MESS here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.mentallyresilientkids.com  +Pre-order before August 8 to get access to bonus content!  SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about the importance of teaching your child about boundaries. This is part 2 of my series on parenting, boundaries, and mental health. Part one can be found here. Whenever you, as a parent or caregiver, set a boundary, make sure that you always explain why in a way that your child will understand. Use the moment to model healthy boundaries for your child and teach them what a healthy boundary looks like, using language that encourages your child to think about the situation and what it means. Avoid using language that shuts them down such as saying “because I said so”, which will make the boundary feel more like a punishment than a teaching opportunity.  Read the blog here: ⁠https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/how-to-set-boundaries-while-still-respecting-validating-emotions OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS:  -AquaTru: 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to https://AquaTru.com  and enter code DRLEAF at checkout. Plus AquaTru comes with a 30-day Money-Back Guarantee so if you don’t like it just send it back for a refund, minus shipping.  Turn back time on the appearance of your skin with Purity Woods’s Age-Defying Dream Cream! Go to puritywoods.com/DRLEAF or enter code DRLEAF at checkout for 10% off your first order.  Just go to Zocdoc.com/LEAF and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.  EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 1:00, 5:00 How to help your child clean up their mental mess 7:25 How to set boundaries with your child 8:20 Why it is always important to explain the “why” behind a boundary 9:40 Why we should avoid “Because I said so!” statements 12:00, 17:48 How to use boundaries as a learning experience for your child  19:00 What happens when we don’t set boundaries with our children 22:45, 25:02 How to validate what your child is feeling while setting boundaries  ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:  -Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com  -Get a free Cleaning up Your Mental Mess workbook when you subscribe to my weekly email at drleaf.com!  - Visit my website at https://drleaf.com for more free resources  -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf  -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf  -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/drcarolineleaf  *DISCLAIMER: This podcast and blog are for educational purposes only and are not intended as medical advice. We always encourage each person to make the decision that seems best for their situation with the guidance of a medical professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Pre-order my new book HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD CLEAN UP THEIR MENTAL MESS here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.mentallyresilientkids.com  +Pre-order before August 8 to get access to bonus content!  SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this...

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