The One Who Went From Martyrdom To Choosing Herself

Steph’s (She/They) journey is anything but ordinary. Raised in Spain and California by missionary parents, faith wasn’t just a belief—it was her family’s entire identity. In this episode, she shares what it was like growing up in a world shaped by martyrdom, purity culture, and rigid gender expectations, and how these pressures left her feeling rootless and anxious.Together, we unpack the emotional toll of high-control religion and the complex process of stepping away from a “good church girl” identity. From questioning her beliefs to rediscovering creativity and community, Steph’s story is a powerful reflection on the courage it takes to deconstruct and rebuild a life that truly fits.Who Is Steph? Steph is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California specialising in Religious Trauma. As an exvangelical themselves, they often think of how their own religious upbringing intersects with the clinical space and their clients. It has been powerful to create space where clients can feel seen and validated while exploring their unique experiences. Their deconstruction process was a pivotal time to hone their values system, rebuild community, and learn how to trust their instincts. Now, they help others do the same!Connect With UsYou can find out more about working with Steph via her website - http://www.stephanieharimototherapy.comYou can also connect over on Instagram You can find out more about Sam on her website - www.anchoredcounsellingservices.com.auTo connect with Sam on Instagram - @anchoredcounsellingservicesWant to contact with Sam about the podcast or therapy? Use this contact form.