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EPISODE · Apr 20, 2026 · 49 MIN

The One Word That's Quietly Destroying Your Relationships FT: Yvette Lever Relationship Coach

from The Growth Concept With Keoni Upton · host Keoni Upton

We recorded this one at the South Perth Foreshore on a perfect Perth afternoon — no conference room, no desk, just a real conversation about something most of us are genuinely bad at: having difficult conversations with the people we love most.Yvette works in the space of communication and relationships, coaching individuals and couples to break the patterns that keep them stuck. She's a Master NLP Practitioner, hypnotist, and personal and corporate coach with over seven years of experience helping people communicate better — not just in business, but in the relationships that actually matter.This episode isn't about conflict resolution tips or relationship hacks. It's about understanding why the same arguments keep happening — and what to actually do about it.What we get into:One word change that completely shifts how a conversation lands — swapping "but" for "and" sounds almost too simple until Yvette breaks down exactly why it works. We go deep on communication patterns — why some couples keep having the same fight for 20 years, and how changing one person's approach can break the whole cycle. The stuff we were given before we were eight — Yvette walks through how nearly every standard we hold our partner to, including making the bed, closing the toothpaste cap, putting glasses in the sink, came from our parents' values, not our own. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. How to actually set up a hard conversation — timing, checking in, managing the other person's anxiety before you've even started talking. The "we" vs "you" reframe — and why it's the difference between your partner feeling blamed and feeling like you're on the same team.If you've ever walked away from an argument thinking how did we even get here, this episode is going to give you some real clarity.Connect with Yvette: LinkedIn → linkedin.com/in/yvette-leverWant to be a guest on The Growth Concept? Head to thegrowthconcept.com.au

We recorded this one at the South Perth Foreshore on a perfect Perth afternoon — no conference room, no desk, just a real conversation about something most of us are genuinely bad at: having difficult conversations with the people we love most.Yvette works in the space of communication and relationships, coaching individuals and couples to break the patterns that keep them stuck. She's a Master NLP Practitioner, hypnotist, and personal and corporate coach with over seven years of experience helping people communicate better — not just in business, but in the relationships that actually matter.This episode isn't about conflict resolution tips or relationship hacks. It's about understanding why the same arguments keep happening — and what to actually do about it.What we get into:One word change that completely shifts how a conversation lands — swapping "but" for "and" sounds almost too simple until Yvette breaks down exactly why it works. We go deep on communication patterns — why some couples keep having the same fight for 20 years, and how changing one person's approach can break the whole cycle. The stuff we were given before we were eight — Yvette walks through how nearly every standard we hold our partner to, including making the bed, closing the toothpaste cap, putting glasses in the sink, came from our parents' values, not our own. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. How to actually set up a hard conversation — timing, checking in, managing the other person's anxiety before you've even started talking. The "we" vs "you" reframe — and why it's the difference between your partner feeling blamed and feeling like you're on the same team.If you've ever walked away from an argument thinking how did we even get here, this episode is going to give you some real clarity.Connect with Yvette: LinkedIn → linkedin.com/in/yvette-leverWant to be a guest on The Growth Concept? Head to thegrowthconcept.com.au

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