The Pain of Non-Selection – And What Champions Do Next

Being dropped from the team hurts. Whether you’re a pro or an aspiring athlete, non-selection can shake your confidence and identity.In this episode of Lessons from the Game, Rugby World Cup winner Gurthro Steenkamp and high-performance coach Ben Pegna open up about the emotional side of not being picked — and what sets champions apart in how they respond.They share powerful personal stories, lessons from coaching at the top level, and mindset tools for bouncing back stronger.✅ In this episode:What to do immediately after not being selectedThe emotional toll of being dropped — and how to deal with itHow to stay ready for your next opportunityWhy coaches don’t always pick “the best” playerBuilding resilience when things don’t go your wayThis isn’t just a rugby story — it’s a conversation about self-awareness, growth, and rising through disappointment.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Team Selection and Disappointment02:41 The Emotional Impact of Non-Selection09:24 Dealing with Disappointment: Personal Experiences13:11 Understanding the Coach's Perspective18:54 Staying Ready for Opportunities23:50 The Role of Social Media in Modern Rugby27:19 Reflections on the Podcast Journey🔔 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & TURN ON NOTIFICATIONS for more rugby insights from top players & coaches!📲 Follow us for more rugby content:📩  Join Coach G’s Free Community - https://thescrumdominatormindset.mykajabi.com/offers/JNLUYzpiFollow us on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ - https://www.instagram.com/lessonsfromthegamepodcastFollow Coach G on⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠ - https://www.instagram.com/ggsteenkampFollow Ben on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ - https://www.instagram.com/benpegna