The Patterns We Learn: Attachment Styles, Infidelity, and the Road Back

Long before we could think about it, we learned how close was safe to get. Those patterns (researchers call them attachment styles) quietly shape how we handle conflict, disappointment, and closeness for the rest of our lives.Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved, joins Tim to explain the four attachment styles and how they show up in infidelity: why the dismissive-avoidant pattern carries the highest risk of cheating, why betrayal cuts so deeply for the anxious-preoccupied partner, and why fixing the marriage without examining the pattern rarely holds. Tim shares his own story, and Bev names his pattern before he reveals his quiz results.Understanding the pattern is not the same as being excused by it, and if these patterns were learned, they can be changed.LINKS and EXTRASEpisode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/071Bev Midelman’s Website: https://securelyloved.comTake the free Attachment Quiz!Understanding WHY Course & CoachingNeed personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.