The Portland Stripper and Author Episode

Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic12:00 - double standard of working 15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 20:00 - what makes a good shift?23:00 - negative impact of stigma28:00 - use cheap makeup33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas36:00 - nice partners do exist41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old47:00 - social media suppression51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd55:00 - owner favoritism59:00 - sex tip!Your host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is www.alexavan.com@thebadalexavan IG@alexavanauthor tiktokFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)