The Power of Asking Questions for Better Sex with Eirikah Delaunay

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we will be having conversations with Eirikah Delaunay, a writer, Witch, and sexual rebel who identifies as a white, polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender woman, Dominant-leaning Switch, and sadomasochist. She is also the mother of two amazing adult children, an executive-level academic professional, and previously a monogamous wife of 20 years. Both/and is her magic word.     The founder of Desire Alchemy, she is a somatic sex+relationship coach and initiated priestess who helps people use embodiment, storytelling, and ritual to transform the energy of their own unique desire into fuel for lives of connection and passion. Her mission is to re-ignite and strengthen stale relationships (including the relationship with self) by cultivating true authenticity, practical skills, devotion, and delight.    In her pursuit of deeper connection through language and embodiment, she earned an MFA in Creative Writing, and trained as a sex+relationship coach at the Somatica InstituteTM. She has had the joy of more than a decade of connection, education, and service in the Seattle sex-positive community, where she has served as a "Tasting Top" and guest educator and facilitator on topics ranging from hands-on skills, D/s dynamics, sacred sexuality, and strategies for maintaining intimacy and connection in long-distance relationships. She currently serves on the Board of the Center for Sex-Positive Culture in Seattle.   Her erotic writing appeared in the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival Literary Anthology in 2018-2020 and 2022. Her chapter "Light Your Fire: Ecstatic Embodiment to Fuel Your Dreams" was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, Sacred Medicine: Mystical Practices for Ecstatic Living, and her chapter "Turn Yourself On: Embodiment Practices to Jump Start Your Day" was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Volume 5. She provides individual, partnered, and group coaching for people curious and excited about using effective communication, magic, sexuality, kink, and/or power exchange relationships as vehicles for personal growth and bliss.   Experience better sex and learn the importance of communicating your desires by tuning in to this episode!   Highlights: (05:28) Erikah's Story  (09:41) What does it mean to be polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender, and dominant leaning switch? (15:13) The Power of Asking Questions (18:52) The importance of putting into words what we really want (20:15) How did sex and spirit come together for Erika?  (23:00) One of the most powerful ways to raise energy and fuel any intention (25:06) How do asking and desire come together?  (30:58) How do we recover and be in the place of desire and connection? (32:24) The Power of NO in Expression and Reception  (40:00) The importance of knowing what your partner wants     Links:   Website:desi(re al)chemy Instagram: Eirikah Delaunay (@eirikah) • Instagram photos and videos Linkedtree: https://linktr.ee/eirikah Facebook: Eirikah Delaunay | Facebook           https://facebook.com/desire.alchemy   ****Catch her at the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival this weekend****   Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected] For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: [email protected] Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter