The Power of Choice

Perhaps the most powerful influences in your relationships, on your attitude and in your personality is what you say and believe about yourself in private. It is not what happens to you in life that’s important, but how you respond internally to the situation you find yourself in and what happens to you, that determine your thoughts and feelings, mind power, and, ultimately the actions you take in life. By learning to police your thoughts and control your inner dialogue, or “self-talk,” you can begin to assert control over every other dimension of your life. You are continually faced with challenges and difficulties, with problems and disappointments, with temporary setbacks and defeats — virtually every problem you face in life will have a relational component to it. Problems are an unavoidable and inevitable part of being human. But, as you learn to draw upon your natural and instinctive innate resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger, bolder and more confident person. In fact, without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know and developed the qualities of your character to where they are today. Whatever problems or setbacks you experience in life have been faced by someone else, somewhere else and at some other time — there are countless numbers of people who haven’t yet experienced your setbacks that when they do, would hugely value and appreciate someone just like you, to guide them through their problems in the way that you’re currently learning to overcome yours. Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. One of the characteristics of superior men and women is that they recognise the inevitability of temporary disappointments and defeats, and they accept them as a normal and natural part of life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when problems come, superior people learn from them, rise above the, and continue onward in the direction of their dreams.