The Psychology of BORING SEX with Shashi Solluna: Expanding The Window of Pleasure

🔥 BORING SEX IS A WARNING SIGN How to Expand Your Window of Pleasure "I used to lie there wondering when it would be over."That’s not a confession. That’s a call to awakening.Most people think bad sex is a technique problem. It’s not. It’s a tolerance problem—your nervous system simply cannot hold that much pleasure yet.In this episode of the Boundless Body Podcast, Dr. Brian Tierney sits down with Shashi Solluna—Oxford-trained psychologist turned international Tantra teacher—to reveal why boring sex is actually a spiritual signal, and how to systematically expand your capacity for embodied ecstasy.✅ Why "just relax" is terrible advice for trauma survivors—and what to do instead✅ The difference between goal-driven sex (exhausting) and nourishing yin sex (restorative)✅ How a decade-long tantric partnership transformed Shashi from celibate seeker to pleasure teacher✅ Why your pelvic floor holds the key to both trauma and transcendence✅ The "pendulation" method: moving between contraction and expansion without dissociation✅ How anger and grief are not obstacles to passion—they are its raw fuel✅ A simple self-pleasure practice (perineum + breath) that rewires full-body orgasmic potential-----------------------------------------------Sashi Solluna:B.A. in Experimental Psychology, Oxford UniversityTrained in Osho active meditations (embodiment, catharsis, therapy)Certified in Mantak Chia’s Daoist sexual arts (including dark-room retreats)Lineage-holder in classical Indian tantra yogaFounder of LiveTantra.com – one of the world’s largest online Tantra platformsAuthor of Tantra Made EasyComing soon: films Sex to Spirit + Tantra Unveiled"You can't learn this out of a book. You have to feel it in your bones."---------------------------------------------------------------The Circle of Light practice (erotic innocence reboot)The Perineum + Breath Reset (from 55:43)Place gentle awareness on the perineum (between genitals and anus)Breathe softly into that space—no forcingAllow micro-movements: a slight lift on the inhale, release on the exhaleNotice if pleasure arises, or numbness, or both. Stay curious.Do this for 3 minutes alone, then bring into partnered touch.-------------------------------------------------------------------------"Pleasure is a capacity, not a goal. You build it the same way you build a muscle—slowly, with repetition, and without shame."🌐 Shashi’s platform: LiveTantra.com📖 Book: Tantra Made Easy🎬 Upcoming films: Sex to Spirit + Tantra Unveiled🎧 Subscribe to Boundless Body PodcastThis episode contains mature conversations about sexuality, trauma, and the nervous system. Listener discretion is advised—and welcomed.🎧 Listen now if you’ve ever wondered:“Is this really all sex is supposed to feel like?”Spoiler: It’s not.-----------------------------HASHTAGS #BoundlessBodyPodcast #ShashiSolluna #Tantra #SacredSexuality #ConsciousRelationship #PleasureEducation #TraumaInformed #WindowOfTolerance #NervousSystemRegulation #SomaticHealing #Pendulation #DissociationRecovery #PleasureActivism #EmbodiedSex #FullBodyOrgasm #SlowSex #YinSex #EroticInnocence #PerineumCare #TantraMadeEasy #LiveTantra #Osho #MantakChia #SexToSpirit #SpiritualSexuality #TantricLove #ShameHealing #ShadowWork #SexualHealing #EmotionalSafety #Catharsis #BoringSex #NotYourMothersTantra #MindBlowingLovemaking #SexEdButMakeItSpiritual #HealYourSexLife #TraumaTherapy #SexTherapist #SomaticExperiencing #RelationshipCoach #PelvicHealth #WomensHealth #MensWork