The Real Reason You Fight With Your Spouse (It’s Not What You Think)

Ever wonder why a simple disagreement turn into a full-blown argument? In this episode, Adam and Marie get real about one of their own past arguments and unpack why couples — especially entrepreneurial ones — fight the way they do.What You'll Learn:Why arguments are rarely about what you think they're aboutHow childhood experiences shape the way you fight as an adultWhat Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is and how it can helpThe concept of a "personal operating system" and why you need one before fixing your business or relationshipHow to hold space for your partner's emotions (even when it's uncomfortable)Practical steps to take the next time you get triggeredKey Moments:The bike argument: how a simple purchase revealed deeper issues around money, scarcity, and childhood woundsMarie shares how her 7-year-old self created a coping strategy she carried into adulthoodAdam talks about learning to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of suppressing themThe three operating systems: individual, relationship, and business — and why that order mattersThe "five whys" exercise to get to the root of any argumentThis Week's Challenge:Next time you have an argument and feel triggered, write it down. Ask yourself "why?" five times to dig down to the root of what's really going on.Resources Mentioned:No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz (creator of IFS therapy)Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapyConnect With Us:Download our free weekly connection workbook (link in show notes). If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!