The Real Reason You Shut Down During Arguments

Most men don't shut down in arguments because they don't care — they shut down because their brain literally goes offline.When your heart rate spikes past 100 BPM during conflict, the part of your brain responsible for rational thought and empathy stops functioning. That's not weakness. That's physiology. And once you understand what's actually happening, you can stop reacting and start connecting. In this video, Wes breaks down why men stonewall, what it costs both partners, and the exact Gottman-backed technique that helps you stay present even when you're flooded.Expect to learn what physiological flooding does to your brain during arguments, why the goal of conflict is understanding not resolution, how men's stonewalling is perceived by their partners, the Gottman Repair Attempt and how to use it mid-conflict, the power of the pause when your heart rate spikes, how to lead with ownership instead of defensiveness, the 24-hour rule for avoiding unnecessary relationship damage and much more...Get in touch in the comments below or head to...Website: www.weslambert.meEmail: [email protected]: https://substack.com/@weslambertSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyY?si=7591bc0f32da4f23Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833