The real reason your boundaries aren't working (and what needs to change)

"Boundaries" pack a lot of promise: from personal protection to being the key to a successful relationship.Personal boundaries are important in a relationship. But sometimes saying that is either than setting them. Or maybe you've had the language of boundaries weaponized against you when trying to advocate for yourself or your own needs.In this episode, Brian breaks down what a boundary actually is (and what it isn't), why some people are accidentally using boundaries as a tool for control, and how getting clear on your own real, personal limits puts you back in control no matter what your partner does.You'll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary, a preference, and a request — and why knowing the difference is key actually getting what you want and need in a relationship.At the end of the day, whether you call them boundaries, rules, guidelines, requests, or needs... we want you to have all the tools you need for a healthy and thriving relationship.This episode will be another tool in your relationship toolbox.And if you want support getting clear on your limits, improving communication, and getting more of what you actually want in your relationship, apply for coaching with Brian at thisisbgm.com/apply.Enrollment for Relationshift is sold out and now closed. Want early access when enrollment opens again later this summer? Add your name to the waitlist at thisisbgm.com/groupIf you are reading this, I have 2 private coaching spots opening up later in June 2026. Learn more about how coaching can support you in building a fuller, more honest, more alive erotic life and relationship and apply for a spot at https://thisisbgm.com/private-coaching/Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)