The Real Reason Your Partner is Avoiding Sex (And Why It’s Not What You Think)

Send us Fan MailEver found yourself thinking, “Why are they always avoiding sex?” Or maybe you’ve felt the sting of rejection and started to question your relationship, your desirability, or your skills in bed.This episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast flips that narrative on its head.We’re diving into the real reasons behind intimacy avoidance—especially after becoming parents. Spoiler: it’s not about being broken or unwanted. We’re talking about stress, nervous system overload, the orgasm gap, and how to rebuild connection without pressure or resentment.💥 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why the orgasm gap matters in long-term relationshipsHow stress and nervous system overwhelm quietly shut down desire, even when the love is strongWhy “doing it right” is more about emotional safety than sexual techniqueThe myth that desire has to come before sex (and what actually works instead)Practical steps to shift the dynamic—even if your partner isn’t ready to talk about itWhether you're the one wanting more sex or feeling shut down and unsure why—this is a judgment-free, insight-filled conversation for anyone navigating sex after kids.📚 Places to get started on your own:Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiWomen's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri WinstonShake Your Soul Song by Devi WardFor Each Other by Lonnie BarbachShe Comes First by Ian KernerBecoming Clitorate by Dr. Lori MintzIf you want to find passion and play more quickly than reading and hoping something sticks, then book a FREE Spark Session with me. We'll explore a  what’s really going on, where you’re feeling stuck, and how to bring playful, pressure-free intimacy back into your relationship over the next three months. I only have a few spaces open so book yours now. BOOK HERE YOUR SPARK SESSION HERE