The Real Reason Your Relationship is Failing (And It Isn’t What You Think)

“If you can't love every aspect of somebody, the wounds, the trauma, all of it, do you truly love them?”Bexx and Noie get into why relationships fall apart, and it's not what most of us think. Drawing on research from relationship psychologist John Gottman, they unpack the idea that it's not conflict that kills a relationship, but the unmet emotional needs underneath it. They dive into Gottman’s Four Horsemen of relationships and discuss their own views and personal stories regarding each one.This springboards into topics about attachment styles, loving someone's potential rather than who they actually are, the difference between a good person and a good partner, and what it really means to have the capacity to hold someone else. Whether you're navigating a current relationship, healing from a past one, or just trying to understand your own patterns, this conversation is for you.Chapters [Start] Why Relationships Fail: Bexx and Noie introduce Gottman's research on the real driver behind relationship breakdowns.04:56 The Four Horsemen: A breakdown of Gottman's four predictors of divorce and how to spot them.16:31 Misconceptions About Love: Assumptions we make about chemistry, partnership, and potential in relationships.20:20 Capacity and Attachment Styles: How attachment styles shape every relationship differently, sometimes in different ways with different people.30:03 Knowing When to Go: Bexx and Noie share personal stories about trusting their gut and the moment they knew a relationship had run its course.Links and ResourcesGottman’s Article: The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and StonewallingConnect With & Follow UsInstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie