The Reason You Can't Set Boundaries (And It's Not What You Think) | Jane Bellis

You have done the therapy. Read the books. Built the vision board. But the same patterns keep running your life.Jane Bellis is a sacred nervous system and shadow integration coach who works with high-performing women stuck in survival mode. After burning out multiple times in the fashion and beauty industry, she retrained in psychotherapy and neuroscience and discovered that the reason most self-development work doesn't stick is that nobody addresses the nervous system first.In this episode of The Shifted Podcast, we go deep on why women over 40 are trapped in fight-or-flight without knowing it, what shadow work actually is and why it is not as scary as it sounds, and why you cannot set real boundaries until you know who you are.In this episode, we discuss:Why your nervous system is keeping you stuck in people-pleasing, overgiving, and burnout, and how to interrupt the cycleWhat shadow work is in practice and why midlife women are turning to it for healing that talk therapy alone cannot reachThe medicine wheel framework: meeting your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health in balanceWhy the fawn response (people-pleasing as a trauma response) is the hidden driver behind most high-achieving women's exhaustionThe difference between power and force and why Gen X women are being called to lead differentlyAbout Jane Bellis: Jane is a nervous system and shadow integration coach, shamanic practitioner, and founder of Mojo School. After multiple burnouts and deep retraining in psychotherapy and neuroscience, she now helps women integrate all parts of themselves through a framework that bridges clinical science and ancient wisdom. Based in Wales, she works with women globally.Reflection Prompt: Where do you find yourself saying "why does this always happen to me"? That repeating pattern is an unhealed wound at the root. And where are you keeping yourself small to keep yourself safe? Both answers are clues to the shadow work waiting for you.For deeper reflection, explore The Shifted Self: Evolution of Gratitude and Self-Reflection Journal on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Shifted-Self-Evolution-Gratitude-Self-Reflection/dp/B0F8NV1591Find coaching and tools at https://www.amiraevolved.com/ Follow Amira at @AmiraEvolved on Instagram and Facebook.Connect with Jane Bellis:Website: mymojoschool.comInstagram: @mrsmojomindsetFacebook: @mrsmojomindsetNew episodes of The Shifted Podcast drop every Tuesday. If this episode stirred something, share it with a woman who has been collecting insights for years but hasn't been able to make them stick. This might be the missing piece.