The Relentless Pursuit: Why "Done" Feels Impossible with ADHD

Do you finish your to-do list but still feel like you've accomplished nothing? You're not alone — and there's a reason for it. In this episode, Cameron explores one of the most under-talked experiences in ADHD: the relentless, exhausting pursuit of something you can never quite reach. Whether it shows up as constant busyness, racing thoughts, or perpetually moving the goalposts, this drive isn't a character flaw — it's wired into the ADHD brain. Cameron breaks down why the need for stimulation can hijack every other need in your life, what the neurobiology of dopamine has to do with it, and — most importantly — how to start giving shape to what "done" actually looks like for you. Drawing on a Malcolm Gladwell insight defining sports as the "willing acceptance of arbitrary constraints," Cameron offers a reframe that could change how you approach your week: you get to set the rules of the game you're playing. In this episode: Why ADHD can feel like a hyperdrive that won't turn off The difference between chasing stimulation and pursuing aliveness How perfectionism and cognitive inflexibility keep the goalposts moving A practical framework for defining "done" — so you can actually rest If you've ever come home at the end of a packed day and felt completely empty, this one's for you.