The Religious Trauma Collective on Healing, Anger & High Control | Sam Sellers & Elise Herde

Healing is a church word. Recovery is the truth. Sam Sellers and Elise Herde, co-founders of the Religious Trauma Collective, join Aaron and Ben to unpack what it actually takes to come out the other side of high-control religion. We get into why "just be better, not bitter" is rubbish advice, why anger is information rather than sin, and why your nervous system still flinches in relationships long after you've left the building. Plus the unhinged crossover between Pentecostal services and Tupperware parties, the one question that reveals whether you're in a high-control group, and a full-blown debate about whether "community" should be cancelled. Sam and Elise are therapists, ex-evangelicals, and the founders of the resource that didn't exist when we needed it. The Religious Trauma Collective is rebranding to Religious Trauma and Cults to broaden the scope beyond religious systems. Their 2026 Online Event runs 19th to 21st of June with 18 sessions including Dr Hillary McBride, Tia Levings, and David Farrier. Event: https://www.thereligioustraumacollective.com/annual-eventTickets: https://religious-trauma-collective-event-2026.heysummit.com/ queerfullymade.com