The Sexless Marriage Talk Hits Different When You're A Therapist

Join Elliot and Lottie on an honest walk | Cheating or sexless? When one partner takes sex off the table, what happens to the other? In this Walk & Talk, therapists Lottie and Elliot unpack one of the most painful dilemmas couples face — forced celibacy in a committed relationship, loosing limerence and why it so often leads to affairs.We break down:🔹 Why contempt and lack of communication destroy intimacy🔹 The "Cup of Tea Syndrome" — how affairs really begin🔹 Limerence vs love: the illusion that traps so many couples🔹 Gottman's Four Horsemen and how they show up in your relationship🔹 Why safety — not communication — is the real key to connection🔹 The "Postage Stamp" effect: how years of unspoken resentment explode🔹 Why men and women often define intimacy completely differently💬 Have you experienced this in your relationship? Drop your thoughts in the comments — we read every one.📌 TIMESTAMPS0:00 – The clip that sparked the conversation0:35 – Contempt and the breakdown of communication2:36 – Gottman's Four Horsemen in action5:10 – The "Cup of Tea Syndrome" — how affairs start7:23 – What monogamy really asks of you8:10 – When sex disappears after children10:12 – Why sex is "oxygen" for connection12:12 – Limerence: the love illusion14:08 – "I'd leave, but everything else is perfect"16:08 – How relationship roles get set in stone19:40 – Phone reminders for intimacy?21:10 – Safety is the key, not communication25:27 – The "Postage Stamp" effect28:20 – The disconnect: external vs internal qualities🔔 Subscribe for our Walk & Talk episodes with real therapist perspectives on love, cheating, intimacy, and everything in between.Recommended Videos: TED Talk - A better way to talk about love | Mandy Len Catron : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMWYQRKuc5MEsther Perel:    / @estherperel  Follow us on: 🎙️ The Paradox of Change Podcast: https://theparadoxofchange.buzzsprout... 📲 Instagram:     / theparadoxofchange   📺 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange📢 If you've experienced infidelity or are working through trust issues, let us know your thoughts in the comments! ⬇️https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange💔 why did my boyfriend cheat?💔 why did my girlfriend cheat?💔 why did my partner cheat?#sexlessmarriage #cheating #couplescoaching #relationshipadvice #affairrecovery #intimacy #limerence #marriageadvice #therapist #walkandtalkHosted by Lottie Passell-Syms (Sex & Intimacy Specialist), Elliot Burgess, and Fifi Sclif therapists who understand that healing starts within.https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchangeHow to find us: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange