The Slingshot Method

Connect with Rachel: @ RachelGibler Connect with Jordan: @JGoFitLife Sign up for my BCB Waitlist!  * Trigger warning: This episode touches on the subjects of death, drugs, and abuse.    Introducing Rachel Gibler - Rachel Giber is a manifestation and mindset coach who is embracing every aspect of who she is!  - Everything she does is based on principles of mindset and spirituality. She created a space she didn't see before; a space that is welcoming to all women.  - Her mission is to allow women to see the possibilities for themselves. No matter where they came from, what they've done, or what shame they hold on to. She represents women who don't have it all together and can still be successful.    Rachel's Story - She had a strong support system until her dad passed when she was 16.  - Senior year was really lonely, confused, angry; but on the outside she tried to keep it all together. She had no basis for a belief system outside of herself, meaning she wasn't spiritual or religious. Without any framework, she spiraled.  - In college, she pretended everything was OK with no direction or sense of self. She was abusing drugs and alcohol, and was in a bad relationship.  - After she, Rachel worked a corporate job in sales, putting on a mask and pushing through her pain and brokenness.  - On workdays she worked a lot, on the weekends she turned to drugs. She felt a lot of shame. She felt as if she was running on a hamster wheel she couldn't get off of. She wanted time to stop and rest. - Ever since her dad passed away, Rachel heard a voice in her head saying "This won't be all for nothing," and she knew she was going to do something with her life. At this point in time, she ignored it.    A Wake Up Call - A few years ago, Rachel heard the voice again, "you need to stop, you're going to kill yourself. Make something out of this". - She was in a freak accident, blew out her knee, and was forced to take medical leave from her job, move in with her mom, and get sober.  - An epiphany: "I got everything I asked for. Time stopped for me."  - "I decided, I can either go on like this and in 3 months have nothing to show for it. Go back to my job, my friends, go back to this life I fucking hate. And have wasted this gift. Or I can sit here in bed and change my life. And that's exactly what I did."  - "It didn't start big. It didn't start knowing where the hell this is going. I took my computer in this fleeting moment of faith and I googled "How to be happy"".  - Rachel learned all she could about successful people. She wanted to be an entrepreneur, and joined her first life coaching program. She quit her job, left her friends and her relationship, and started the Lash Lounge. - She knew she would be lonely for a few months while she transitioned. Through the hard times she remembered the voice saying, "This won't all be for nothing".  - A year later, she shared her story, which brought her to coaching. Her community grew as she became more vulnerable.  - At this point, she owns 3 businesses, has amazing people around her, and feels good about where life is going.    Do it Anyway - Sometimes there are things calling us and we choose to ignore it, but it will always come back. She chose to let it guide her. The fear of the unknown didn't scare her. - It's OK to trust it even if you don't know. You can know and feel you're meant for more.   - The epiphany was a fleeting moment, a spark of faith. If she hadn't taken action in that 5 second window before she talked herself out of it, she wouldn't be where she is. She did this through the fear. She was afraid. She was terrified all the time.  - "You just figure it out as you go and build that mental muscle of being able to show up through not knowing the steps".  - "Things aren't gonna change until we change them within ourselves." - Had a drive to change because she had nothing else to lose, but you don't need to reach rock bottom before you make a change.    Advice for people who feel stuck in an environment and want to shift?  - It's important to grounding yourself in an environment that allows you to flourish.  - She was very afraid of being alone. Our primitive brain tells us that if we lose our pack, we'll die. - Rachel learned to let herself off the hook for the ways she hadn't walked away before. There's a shame of not leaving, a lot of emotions attached to our actions.  Release yourself from the expectation and realize, "it's just my humanness here, and I can consciously make a decision." - There's a common limiting belief of "I cannot make friends outside of college." - "There's an entire world out there that you can be a part of if you chose to make different decisions".  - She mentally prepared herself for ripping off the bandaid. More can't come in if you're already energetically attracting things you don't want.  - "You have to trust that there's an entire world out there waiting for you if you're willing to go find it. Approach it with a playful curiosity. Think Hmm what could I do differently?" - Do something different. Join different groups, go to different coffee shops. You'll gain confidence by showing up.    Release and Do Things Differently - If you're putting energy into things you don't want more of, nothing will change.  - You don't need to add things on, sometimes you need to rest and let go.   - You have to take a step back, slowly, pull yourself back to propel yourself forward. You'll go much faster if you do that. otherwise you'll burn yourself out. You have to give yourself permission to slow down, take time for yourself, and be by yourself.  - Rachel hated being by herself. Didn't want to be aware of her thoughts when she was by herself. Often looked for distraction and ways to occupy her brain.  - "You'll be able to grow faster when you stop avoiding yourself and clear that space for you to be. Then you'll call in the right things. " - People are afraid of where they fit in. They think, "I'm not interesting enough" and that they don't fit in.     On getting into business and online space: - About a year into her self development work (not spirituality), she made connections with some entrepreneurs but had no framework for how online business worked. No understanding of how to make money, and was very impressionable.  - She wanted to empower women to speak about mindset principles. How you transition from shame and things that hold you back, and how to shift those. She heard somewhere that you can't make money as a mindset coach. This spoke into her fear.  - Everyone was asking her about her social media. She loves the creative side. People asked her how she did things around that. They said she was inspiring, but then they were more interested in the social media presence.  - She abandoned herself and her mission to do social media coaching. It worked, and made lots of money pretty quickly because she's good at it.  - She wasn't happy because it wasn't authentic to her, and felt trapped again.  - She pulled the plug on the whole thing. It wasn't her and didn't feel good.  - She took a small step back and assessed what she's done and the life she wants.  - She wants to be a coach, but knows she's a hot mess. She's not all buttoned up and didn't feel authentic being in the 'box' of the mindset coach. She didn't feel like she could be a coach because coaches have the "perfect mindset"  - Looked for her identity in another place and found spirituality. Followed spiritual entrepreneurs. Not as "woo" as everyone else. She approaches with skepticism.  - Recently, she decided to step into where she is. Found the women just like her. Not fully 'woo' but still mindful and spiritual. They don't have it all together, but mindset has helped them. They still want to be successful but I don't feel perfect.  - She built her brand around that, it feels the most authentic and it's truly her. "Took taking steps back constantly, swallowing my ego and my pride, restarting over and over again until I got to this spot. "   What's in the Future? - Rachel is launching a podcast in May 202, "Manifestation, Men and Money" - She plans on hosting mastermind retreats