The Social Rules Everyone Broke (And Why We’re All So Awkward Now)

What is etiquette in the modern age? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle speaks with with two modern etiquette authorities: Elaine Swann, the expert the New York Times calls “The Emily Post of the Digital Age,” and Sarah Jane Ho, Netflix host and host of the Mind Your Manners podcast, as well as an Eastern wellness expert. Together, they unpack how we have lost decorum, what’s actually going on with our social skills, and why “just be yourself” might be the worst advice we’ve ever normalized. From dating, weddings, and group chats to social media, power, and belonging, this conversation is a sharp, funny, and deeply human look at how to move through the world with more confidence, clarity, and grace. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why etiquette isn’t dead—but why it feels more confusing than ever Have we lost decorum?! And why? Why “just be yourself” became bad advice in a socially complex world Solution to our social skills feel rusty after the pandemic and life online How social media and digital life changed the rules of behavior The hidden rules of modern dating  What’s actually considered rude now The wedding etiquette arms race and what couples really owe their guests Who pays the biggest social price for bad manners (and why) The difference between being polite and being a pushover How to set boundaries, tell the truth, and still be gracious The small habits that make people feel respected, comfortable, and at ease Book Links (via Bookshop.org — always support independent bookstores): Mind Your Manners by Sara Jane Ho Elaine Swann’s Book of Modern Etiquette by Elaine Swann   Follow the Guests: Sara Jane Ho — Instagram, TikTok Elaine Swann — Instagram, TikTok    Learn More: Elaine Swann’s Etiquette School: The Swann School of Protocol Sara Jane Ho’s Personal Care Brand: Antevorta    Book Recommendations Book recommendation from Sara Jane Ho: Manifest Now By IDIL Ahmed  Book recommendation from Elaine Swann: Safe People by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John TownsendSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.