The Stories You Tell Yourself Aren't Facts with Dr. Lauren Fine

What if some of the things you believe about yourself aren't actually facts? "If I say no, I'm difficult." "If I change my mind, I've failed." "I've already put so much time into this, so I have to keep going." They might feel true, especially when you've been telling yourself the same story for years. But feeling true and being true are two very different things. In this episode of The Nope Coach Podcast, I'm joined by Dr. Lauren Fine, a physician, medical educator, coach and recovering people-pleaser, to talk about the stories we mistake for facts and how they can keep us stuck. We talk about people-pleasing, saying no without guilt, changing direction, sunk cost fallacy, identity, overthinking and why highly competent people can be particularly bad at choosing themselves. Lauren also shares her simple "camera test" for separating what actually happened from everything your brain has added afterwards. Because "they haven't replied to my message" is a fact. "They're ignoring me because I've done something wrong" is a story. We also talk about: • Why changing your mind doesn't mean you've failed • The grief that can come with changing careers or identities • Why past experience isn't wasted just because you choose a different path • When saying no needs an explanation and when it doesn't • How to challenge the stories keeping you stuck If there's something you've been telling yourself you can't do, can't change or have to keep doing, this episode might leave you asking: Is that actually true, or is it just a story you've been telling yourself for a really long time? Connect with Lauren here: https://laurenfine.com/ Connect with Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach