The Surprising Power of Wanting Less with Bob Lotich

Greek philosopher Epictetus once said, “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” That insight may be more relevant today than ever. We live in a world constantly urging us to want more, upgrade more, and pursue more. But what if that endless pursuit is costing us something far more valuable than money? What if wanting less is one of the most powerful financial decisions we can make? On today’s episode of Faith & Finance, financial coach and author Bob Lotich joined the show to discuss why contentment creates freedom—and how learning to want less can reshape our financial lives. A Better Financial Question Most people make spending decisions by asking one question: Can I afford this? That’s not a bad question—but it may not be the best one. Bob suggested a deeper question: Can I afford to want this? That shift matters because some things we own eventually begin to own us. A purchase may fit the budget, but still bring new pressures, obligations, and distractions. The issue isn’t always the price tag—it’s the grip that desire can have on our hearts. Bob shared the story of Roman general Manius Curius Dentatus. When enemies attempted to bribe him with gold and expensive gifts, they found him roasting turnips for dinner. Seeing his simple lifestyle, they realized a man content with so little could not be bought. The lesson is timeless: contentment removes leverage. When we need less, we are less vulnerable to manipulation, fear, and compromise. The fewer things we depend on for identity or security, the freer we become. How Desire Can Become a Chain Every unchecked desire can create a new chain. A larger lifestyle often requires a larger paycheck. More possessions usually mean more maintenance, more bills, and more commitments. Debt can magnify that burden even further. Scripture warns, “The borrower is slave to the lender” (Proverbs 22:7). While that may not mean literal slavery today, the principle still stands: financial obligations can reduce flexibility and limit our ability to respond when God leads us in a new direction. Bob shared the story of someone who sensed a clear call into ministry but couldn’t accept the opportunity because debt payments made the lower salary impossible. That’s more than a budgeting issue—it’s a discipleship issue. Jesus said, “You cannot serve God and money” (Matthew 6:24). That warning is not only about greed. It is also about control. Financial obligations demand time, energy, and attention. When too many of them pile up, they begin directing our choices. As Bob put it, sometimes our possessions end up possessing us. Two Very Different Responses to Wealth The Gospels give us two striking examples. The rich young ruler walked away from Jesus because he could not release his wealth (Mark 10:17–22). Zacchaeus, on the other hand, responded to an encounter with Jesus by joyfully giving away half of his possessions and making restitution to those he had wronged (Luke 19:1–10). The difference wasn’t the amount of money involved. It was the hold that money had on their hearts. The Secret of Contentment The Apostle Paul wrote: “I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content” (Philippians 4:11). Paul had experienced abundance and need. Yet his joy wasn’t tied to either one. That kind of contentment is true freedom. It means we can live faithfully in seasons of plenty or scarcity because our confidence rests in God, not in circumstances. Wanting more often begins with comparing more. Social media can intensify this struggle by putting everyone else’s highlight reel in front of us every day. It becomes easy to feel behind, dissatisfied, or pressured to keep up. One practical step Bob shared was limiting social media use. Sometimes reducing the voices shaping our desires is one of the fastest paths to peace. How to Start Wanting Less If you long for greater freedom, begin here: 1. Evaluate Your Desires. Ask what you deeply want right now—and why. 2. Count the True Cost. Look beyond the purchase price. Consider the time, maintenance, stress, and financial commitments attached to it. 3. Be Careful With Lifestyle Upgrades. Every increase in lifestyle can quietly become a permanent monthly obligation. 4. Explore Simpler Alternatives. Sometimes renting, borrowing, waiting, or doing without can provide more joy than ownership. 5. Practice Gratitude. Contentment grows where gratitude is cultivated. True financial freedom is not measured by what we have, but by what no longer has a hold on us. When we learn to want less, we create more room to live generously, respond obediently, and walk closely with God. And that may be the richest life of all. Want to Go Deeper? You can read Bob’s full article in Faithful Steward Magazine called The Surprising Power of Wanting Less. When you become a FaithFi partner, you’ll receive helpful resources designed to equip you for faithful stewardship. Learn more at FaithFi.com/Partner. On Today’s Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions: I’d like to put a power of attorney in place, but I don’t have a family member I can ask to serve in that role. What would you recommend? I’m recently widowed and trying to determine how to grow what remains of the insurance money after I pay my bills. What would you suggest? Resources Mentioned: Faithful Steward: FaithFi’s Quarterly Magazine (Become a FaithFi Partner) Simple Money, Rich Life: Achieve True Financial Freedom and Design a Life of Eternal Impact by Bob Lotich SeedTime The Surprising Power of Wanting Less by Bob Lotich (Article in Faithful Steward, Issue 5) Our Ultimate Treasure: A 21-Day Journey to Faithful Stewardship by Rob West Wisdom Over Wealth: 12 Lessons from Ecclesiastes on Money Look At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and Anxiety Rich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich Fool Find a Certified Kingdom Advisor® (CKA) FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions every workday at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. You can also visit FaithFi.com to connect with our online community and partner with us as we help more people live as faithful stewards of God’s resources. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. 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