The Therapist and The Coach Podcast EP 016

Episode 16: Returning to What Was Never Lost When the part of you that learned how to perform gets more love than the part of you that is simply real, something in us begins to split. This episode is a tender, honest conversation about what we call imposter syndrome—but really, it is about shame, adaptation, and the hidden self so many people quietly carry. The self that learned how to be what was needed. The self that became excellent, capable, accomplished… while still fearing it might all fall apart if anyone saw what lived underneath. In many ways, this conversation sits close to the heart of Lerae's newly published Soul Designs Guide, now available on Amazon.ca here. In this conversation, we go beneath the label and into the humanity of it. We talk about the ways we learn, often very young, which parts of us are acceptable and which parts are not. We talk about the exhaustion of performing, the loneliness of hiding, and the deep relief that can come when even the parts we most want to conceal are met with love instead of rejection. For us, this one touches something essential: how healing begins when we stop trying to outrun the parts of ourselves shaped by pain of some kind and start meeting them with honesty, compassion, and the courage to stay. This is a conversation about being seen. And what it changes when we are loved anyway. Listen in, and notice what it stirs in you.