THE TIES THAT BIND: A KANDID CHAT ON TRAUMA BONDS

Shoot Me A Message! !CONTENT TRIGGER WARNING! This episode contains discussions about domestic violence, abuse, and trauma bonding, which may be triggering to listeners with similar experiences. Please, please, please engage in self-care if you choose to continue to listen. I had the opportunity to have a kandid chat on Trauma Bonding, a prevalent issue experienced by people in abusive relationships. I was joined for this discussion by two incredible women who shared their insights and perspectives on the subject: Lianne, the Creator and Host of the Personal Development Podcast: “Watch Us Thrive.” & Natasha D’Arcangelo, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Clinical Trauma professional, Certified Compassion Fatigue professional, and educator. Key Takeaways Trauma bonds are the emotional attachment formed between a person and their abuser which often makes the victim feel compelled to stay in the relationship. Trauma bonds cut across races, ethnicities, cultures, and socioeconomic status -Natasha D’Arcangelo There are different ways a relationship can be abusive that are not physical – Lianne Parents might meet their child’s physical needs but may not meet their emotional needs, causing long-term emotional damage - Natasha D’Arcangelo When a relationship progress very quickly, it is likely a red flag – Lianne The victim may think that the good days outweigh the bad ones, but it will get worse over time, and leaving can be difficult – Lianne You can be in an abusive relationship even if you’re not being physically harmed. Natasha D’Arcangelo Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for the victim – Natasha D’Arcangelo It’s best to provide resources and support to those in abusive relationships rather than lecture them to leave -Natasha D’Arcangelo If you’re in an abusive relationship recognize your worth and understand that you deserve better - Natasha D’Arcangelo Detaching and healing from an abusive relationship can start with speaking up and using your voice to take your power back – Lianne It’s not your responsibility to fix an abuser who is broken and needs professional help – Lianne Every person deserves a healthy relationship - Natasha D’Arcangelo Trauma bonding is a piece of the whole domestic violence situation and everyone’s situation is different. If you’re a victim, reach out to someone for support, whether it’s a professional counselor, domestic violence shelter staff, or friends and family. RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in a violent relationship, help is out there: Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) Text START to 88788 RAINN -Call 800.656.4673 Trans Crisis Hotline (888) 843-4564 Trevor Project(LGBTQIA+)(866) 488-7386 Crisis Text Line: Text START to 741-741 Guest contact info: Lianne https://wutpodcast.com/ https://www.instagram.com/watchusthrivepodcast/ Natasha D’archangelo https://www.linkedin.com/in/natasha-darcangelo/ [email protected] (Not encrypted so no personal info should be emailed) About Guests: Lianne Lianne is the creator and host of the Watch Us Thrive podcast, a platform that focuses on personal development and mental health. Despite never having considered public speaking as an option before, she now finds herself fulfilling this role with great passion and enthusiasm. Through the Watch Us Thrive podcast, Lianne aims to shine a Support the show Intro Music by: Anthony Nelson aka BUSS https://music.apple.com/us/artist/buss/252316338 Keep it Safe, Keep it Healthy & Keep it Kandid! www.thekandidshop.com IG, FB & Tiktok: @thekandidshoppodcast