The Topic No One Talks About - Intimacy and Sex

Send Cathy a text:)This episode is one that makes me uncomfortable to talk about but is also a topic that we as caregivers experience.    The reduction of intimacy and a sexual relationship is a major part of the grief and sense of loss that caregivers experience when they are providing necessary care to a spouse. ... Caregiving changes roles and expectations and the emotional attachment that was once the catalyst for intimacy and sex may suffer.Unfortunately, losing the intimate aspect of a relationship can sadden both the caregiver and your spouse. We all crave closeness, and we crave it especially during periods of duress -- such as when we are unsure of the future, or scared of losing our independence. Maintaining a close relationship is important and should be comfortingCaregivers may worry that physical affection will hurt their loved one or that they won't be in the mood for even kissing or snuggling, much less sexual intercourseA lot of caregivers feel quite selfish that intimacy is even on their minds, given all that's going on with their partner.  But taking time for intimacy can be an invaluable source of comfort for both partners when they're facing a health crisis or managing a chronic illness. Here are a few tips to consider to stay intimate when your become your partner's caregiver:Talk openly to your loved one.Consider talking to licensed professional. Manage your expectations and take time to understand everything. Go on dates. You don't have to do anything fancy; just find activities where you and your partner can connect in nonphysical ways. ers, not caregiver and care recipient, just for a couple of hours.Set your own rules.   You might try:Holding hands as often as possibleStroking each other’s hairHugging frequentlyGiving each other a shoulder or foot massageWriting each other notesCuddlingFind new things to bond over.  Although caring for a spouse might fundamentally alter the relationship, it does not need to signal the end of intimacy in marriage.Support the show