The "Trauma Lies" Keeping You Stuck in Midlife - with Ernest Ellender

💬 message Denise Ernest Ellender, who people call the Black Belt Trauma Coach, is a former clinical psychologist who realized that sometimes we need more than just talk....we need to train our hearts and bodies like a martial artist would.We dove deep into the idea that we don't have to let our past trauma be the boss of our future. Ernest shares about the "trauma lies" we tell ourselves just to survive childhood and how those stories follow us into midlife until we choose to replace them with truth. It’s not just about a one-time "aha" moment; he talks about the "grind" of self-improvement and why it’s so important to actually enjoy the process and celebrate the tiny wins along the way.You’ll hear us talk about:How to spot the "trauma lies" that are secretly running your lifeWhy your 40s and 50s are the best years for deep transformationThe 20 rules for healing and making your new, healthy life feel normalPractical ways to reward yourself and change your internal self-talkErnest is such a grounded, wise soul, and his perspective on resilience and embodied strength is exactly what we need in this season of life. Connect with Ernest here:Website: www.healfromchildhood.com* link to a free 36-page summary of my book: https://www.healfromchildhood.com/free-download * link to the softcover in the Amazon bookstore: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CXJ5C4NB* audiobook on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3ew0H4mdwCxFvgUi168ETK?si=35ff1687a0e34acaThank you for spending time with me today on the Thrive After 45™ podcast! If this episode spoke to you, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss one.November 2026, I will be hosting a live, in-person experience called IGNITE: The Inner Uprising™.It is a two-day immersive gathering for women in midlife — women who feel the quiet pull toward something more truthful, more embodied, more fully their own.IGNITE is an extension of these conversations.It’s where reflection becomes embodiment.Where insight becomes integration.Where women who have held so much for others gather to stand fully in their own sovereignty.If something in today’s conversation stirred you — if your body leaned in — that is NOT accidental.The waitlist is now open.If IGNITE feels like something your future self would thank you for, I invite you to add your name here. https://ignite2026.lovable.appThere is a place for us to gather.If you loved this episode, I’d be so grateful if you left a review - it helps more amazing women like you find this show!Your journey doesn’t stop here - let’s keep the conversation going! Connect with me at denisedrinkwalter.com, and follow ...