The Triggers Behind Anxious Attachment Style

Attachment style refers to how we connect with people on a default level. Our attachment patterns generally come from how we were cared for as children and they get brought with us to adulthood. However, even if we grew up in a great or not-so-great past, we can always work on our attachment patterns and relate to others in a healthier way.    For this episode, let’s focus on the anxious attachment style. This is an insecure attachment style where the bonds are not formed from trust and security but from fear. Someone with this attachment style might feel like they felt emotionally distant or emotionally insecure with their caregivers. Their needs were met in an inconsistent way.    Insecure attachment in early childhood teaches the child that they weren’t good enough. Because of this, we end up seeing a lot of toxic adult relationships with those that have this attachment style (or any insecure attachment style). Those with this anxiousness style can have trust issues and not feel safe around someone because they don’t believe people will be there long term.    If you have an anxious attachment style, it can be a great start to learn some of your triggers and why you think you might be showing up in this way. Not everything is black and white, but if you’re at least aware, you can take action and create healthier patterns for you and your potential/current partner.    If your partner withdraws and that triggers a feeling of anxiety within you, then being able to name it, label it, and then communicate it with your partner can be a very powerful and healing process. It can take a bit of time to really put a voice behind some of these feelings you’re suddenly experiencing, but there is hope in developing a more secure attachment style if you currently feel this way. The more you’re able to feel the feelings, and label it, you will see progress!    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com