The Truth About Scheduled Sex: How to Rekindle Intimacy in Marriage

Send us Fan MailIs scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation.What You’ll Learn:01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex01:50 Scheduling Creates the Mood02:28 The Pressure of Scheduled Nights02:49 Real-Life Example: Anniversary Expectations03:38 Naked Fun Dates, Not Sex Dates04:22 Step 1: Book a Date & Treat It as Non-Negotiable04:59 Step 2: Build the Bridge from Parent to Lover05:18 Transition Rituals & Building Anticipation05:41 Get Relaxed, Present, and Connected06:35 Step 3: Communicate More Than You Think07:10 Step 4: Debrief After Connection Dates07:26 Always Be Learning About Each Other07:47 Client Story: Laura's Pain-Free Sexy Times08:33 Scheduled Sex = Grownup Intimacy10:31 Mindfulness Minute & ClosingLinks & Resources:Book a free Spark SessionFollow Sofia on InstagramMore episodes of Sex After Kids PodcastDrop your thoughts in the comments—have you tried scheduling sex? What worked (or didn’t) for you?Subscribe for more real talk on sex, intimacy, and pleasure after kids!