The Truth Behind Being Selfish with Kerry Docherty

Women are taught that being selfless is a virtue. Work harder. Ask for less. Keep everyone else happy. But what happens when that version of success costs you your voice? But too often, selflessness is just another word for disappearing.Takin' Care of Lady Business Episode 159On this episode of Takin' Care of Lady Business, Jennifer Justice sits down with Kerry Docherty, co-founder of Faherty and author of Selfish, to unpack one of the biggest lies women are sold: that putting yourself last makes you a better leader, partner, mother, or founder.Kerry shares the journey from Yale and law school to helping build one of today's most recognizable lifestyle brands, while quietly losing touch with her own creative ambitions. She opens up about the couples therapy conversation over her salary, why she knew her contribution to the business mattered even when it couldn't be measured on a spreadsheet, and what it took to publish the memoir people told her not to write.Together, Jennifer and Kerry explore why so many women wait for permission to choose themselves—and why that permission is never coming.What You'll Learn:Why "selfless" isn't always the compliment we've been taught it isHow to recognize when you've built a life around everyone else's expectationsWhy your value doesn't have to fit neatly into a job title or line itemHow fear quietly becomes the decision-maker in your life and careerWhat it really means to choose yourself without abandoning the people you loveHighlights:(00:51) Meet Kerry Docherty(01:47) Why she wrote Selfish(05:56) Telling the truth when it's uncomfortable(11:17) Building Faherty from the ground up(12:33) The salary conversation that changed everything(15:40) Marriage, burnout, and losing yourself(21:26) Why selflessness has a cost(24:23) Reclaiming her creative voice(32:47) Stop waiting for permissionAbout Our Guest:Kerry Docherty is the co-founder of Faherty, the lifestyle clothing brand she built with her husband and his identical twin, and the author of Selfish: Unlearning, Reclaiming, and Telling the Truth. A graduate of Yale University and Pepperdine Law School, Kerry has worked across law, mindfulness, community building, sustainability, and creative storytelling. She is also the author of the children’s book Somewhere, Right Now. Through her writing and work, Kerry challenges the old bargain women are handed, be good, be selfless, be grateful, and asks what becomes possible when women decide their own needs belong in the room too.Kerry Docherty’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerrydocherty/ Explore Faherty: https://fahertybrand.com/ About Jennifer Justice and The Justice Dept.JJ’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-justice-354a0b99The Justice Dept: https://www.thejusticedept.com/JJ’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferjusticel/ Newsletter: https://tkolb-newsletter-a50814.beehiiv.com/The Justice Dept. is a female-focused advisory, consulting, and law firm advocating for female founders, talent, execs, and brands. We represent bo$$ ladies to make them 💰💰.If you love what you hear, please subscribe and share with a friend.This is a Lady Business LLC Production.