The Truth We Don't Want to Face

This week we're discussing The Truth We Don't Want to Face.  When betrayal, ongoing conflict, or a child's escalating behavior keeps reopening old wounds, it's easy to reduce people to their worst moments. That mindset feels protective, yet it shrinks our capacity for peace, models bitterness to our kids, and keeps us tethered to pain. Marissa Lee, author and single parent, joins Robert and Elizabeth to unpack how learning to separate a person's worth from their actions helps us heal, set clearer boundaries, and stay grounded in dignity—ours and theirs. Today, we cover three main points: Contempt dehumanizes. What contempt looks like, how it spreads in our homes and culture, and why it leaves relationships stuck. Compassion expands our capacity. How extending dignity to others softens the shame within us and frees our energy for what matters. Practical ways to see worth. Simple, repeatable steps to move from judgment to curiosity, from reactivity to agency, including naming our feelings, resetting expectations, and choosing actions that align with our values. Seeing someone's humanity isn't excusing harm—it's refusing to let contempt define you. Curiosity builds bridges; ask "why" before deciding "who" someone is. Your children feel how you speak about the other parent, and honoring their other parent protects your child's sense of self. Boundaries require agency—state what you will do and follow through. Resources Mentioned In This Episode The Gottman Institute – Research from Dr. John Gottman on how contempt is one of the strongest predictors of relationship breakdown. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff – A book exploring how self-compassion can heal shame and foster emotional resilience. Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend – A guide to setting healthy limits that protect your peace and relationships. Dr. Becky at Good Inside – A parenting resource offering practical tools for setting structure, building connection, and guiding kids through emotional growth. We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener questions HERE. Full Show Notes  Learn more about Solo Parent Follow us on Instagram