The Unhealthy Power of Toxic Shame

Kamini continues her discussion around shame. This time covering toxic shame and how it shows up for some of us. Shame is very internal and toxic shame takes it one step further by making you feel like you’re a wrong, worthless, or inferior person. This level of toxic shame usually happens as a result of a traumatic experience.    People who have been abused often feel like they deserved the experience that happened to them. Deep levels of shame can have you unintentionally develop self-sabotaging patterns or self-harm, or chronic perfectionism that won’t allow you to push forward. Shame can trickle throughout your life even in the form of procrastination.   Shame also keeps you isolated. You feel so gross with yourself that you don’t want anybody else to know that you’re ‘this person’ and so you hide yourself from the outside world or the people who care the most about you. You might even intentionally avoid dating because you do not feel adequate enough to be a good partner for someone else.    How do you get out of this cycle? First thing, it’s okay to ask for help. You’d be surprised to know that there are many people who feel the way you do. It might feel easy for you to ignore your feelings and surprise your emotions, but that only furthers this toxic cycle. If you need a safe space to just vent and share some of your pain, Kamini and many others are here for you!    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com