EPISODE · May 29, 2026 · 7 MIN
The Values You Live By Aren't Really Yours
from The Mature Male · host Wes Lambert
You are making decisions every day based on values you never consciously chose.Most men carry a set of inherited values from childhood — loyalty, appearance, family, sacrifice — that run quietly in the background of every significant choice. The relationship you stay in. The career you picked. The argument you keep having. Values are operating underneath all of it. And until you know which ones are actually yours, you're living on autopilot someone else programmed.This video breaks down the difference between inherited values and chosen values, how to recognize which ones are running you, and three practical exercises to finally identify what you actually care about.Expect to learn:What inherited values are and how they form in childhoodThe difference between inherited and chosen valuesHow unexamined values quietly drive major life decisionsHow to recognize an inherited value versus a chosen oneThe deathbed test, the anger test, and the biography testHow to use a core values list to identify your top fiveWhy values are decision filters and what happens when they're unconsciousHow values show up in relationships and compatibilityFollow along at...-Website: www.weslambert.me-Email: [email protected]: https://substack.com/@weslambert-Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyY?si=7591bc0f32da4f23-Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833
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You are making decisions every day based on values you never consciously chose.Most men carry a set of inherited values from childhood — loyalty, appearance, family, sacrifice — that run quietly in the background of every significant choice. The relationship you stay in. The career you picked. The argument you keep having. Values are operating underneath all of it. And until you know which ones are actually yours, you're living on autopilot someone else programmed.This video breaks down the difference between inherited values and chosen values, how to recognize which ones are running you, and three practical exercises to finally identify what you actually care about.Expect to learn:What inherited values are and how they form in childhoodThe difference between inherited and chosen valuesHow unexamined values quietly drive major life decisionsHow to recognize an inherited value versus a chosen oneThe deathbed test, the anger test, and the biography testHow to use a core values list to identify your top fiveWhy values are decision filters and what happens when they're unconsciousHow values show up in relationships and compatibilityFollow along at...-Website: www.weslambert.me-Email: [email protected]: https://substack.com/@weslambert-Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyY?si=7591bc0f32da4f23-Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833
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