The “We’re Fine” Trap: Withdrawal Rates, Wealth Gaps & Planning That Actually Works

On this episode of Simply Money, Bob and Brian break down the most expensive lies couples tell themselves about money—especially the dangerous comfort of saying “we’re fine” —and explain how a lack of communication around retirement timing, estate plans, and financial roles can cost families millions and fracture relationships. They also dig into why a single withdrawal rate like the traditional 4% rule isn’t enough, exploring sequence of returns risk, bucket strategies, flexible spending guardrails, and how small tweaks in Monte Carlo assumptions can dramatically change your plan’s success rate. Plus, Allworth’s in-house insurance expert, Jodee Deutsch, joins the show to discuss when life insurance shifts from simple protection to advanced estate and legacy planning, and how high-net-worth families can better align their wealth with their long-term goals.