The Work We Do Outside of Work: Needs, Emotions, and Inner Leadership

What if the most important leadership work doesn’t happen at work at all?In this episode of Sexy Business Podcast, host Eisve sits down with executive coach Nalani to explore emotional awareness, human needs, and the transformative practice of parts work. Together, they unpack why reconnecting with our inner world isn’t “needy,” but essential for leadership, relationships, and personal well-being.You’ll learn why suppressing emotions often makes them louder, how unmet needs shape our behavior, and how shifting from demands to requests — both with others and with ourselves — builds trust and clarity. Nalani introduces powerful frameworks from Nonviolent Communication and parts work, offering practical tools to reconnect with emotions, understand inner conflicts, and lead from a grounded, intentional place.This conversation is for leaders, entrepreneurs, and anyone curious about emotional intelligence, self-connection, and doing inner work that actually changes how you show up in the world.✨ Topics include emotional needs, self-leadership, parts work, perfectionism, boundaries, emotional vocabulary, and conscious communication.00:00–01:10 The work we do outside of work01:11–03:30 Human needs vs “being needy”03:31–05:45 Why we disconnect from emotions05:46–07:10 Requests vs demands in relationships07:11–09:30 What are “parts” and how they show up09:31–11:30 Suppressing emotions & why they come back stronger11:31–13:45 Numbing, avoidance, and emotional patterns13:46–16:00 How to start working with your parts16:01–18:45 From self-judgment to compassion18:46–20:30 Making requests of your inner parts20:31–22:30 Building trust with yourself22:31–24:45 Who’s driving the bus? (self-leadership analogy)24:46–26:30 Reconnecting when you don’t know how you feel26:31–27:45 Closing reflections & invitation to connectFind more abour Nalani Rodriguez you can visit this page: https://nalanirodriguez.com/