The Wound Isn't The Rupture
from Words in the Wilderness Hosted by Jacky Power
Every parent asks some version of the same question. Am I damaging my child? Have I already damaged them? This episode is Jacky's answer. It's not an answer that reassuringly bypasses the truth, but an answer that holds the truth. Because the question isn't how do I never hurt my child. The question is: when I do hurt them - because I will - how do I repair? Ruptures happen in every relationship. They're part of being human. They're even part of healthy relationships - they show that each person has their own separate sense of self. What creates lasting damage isn't the rupture. It's the rupture that goes unrepaired. In this episode: What it means to parent from your wounded child - and why even the best intentions can mean you're parenting the child you were, not the child in front of you The despair magnet - how shame turns one mistake into a tally of evidence that you're fundamentally flawed The difference between guilt (I did something bad) and shame (I am bad) What a genuine amend looks like - and why an apology with 'but' on the end isn't one Dan Siegel's four S's: Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure - and how repair rebuilds all four The intergenerational gift: when you repair with your child, you repair with yourself | "Beneath the stars of destiny, beneath the numbing and defences, beneath the self-doubting censorship, beneath it all... catch a glimpse of precious alchemy. Beneath it all, beneath — is me." Follow me on Instagram: @the_therapeutic_poet Get my book Check out my website Join my Awakening To Presence course on Insight Timer
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