The Zan and Jordan Show — Episode 45 — Why You Keep Avoiding Real Connection with Women (And How to Stop)

Send us Fan MailHow to connect with a woman across the room without saying a single word. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:- The subtle difference between *desire,* which is honest, free and independent of outcome… and *neediness,* which has a covert agenda and tries to _take_ something- How to let a woman FEEL you by expressing your desire openly- How to overcome internal blockages that keep you from expressing your authentic desire- *4 practical steps* to communicating your desire to a woman across any room, without saying a single wordTIMESTAMPS:00:00 Highlights05:45 True desire vs. covert neediness 15:07 Why power games sabotage connection (and how to escape the zero-sum mindset)26:20 How Zan expresses genuine desire in the moment 37:55 Don’t submit to _her,_ submit to the *third entity:* the force of attraction 41:00 4 indicators of a guy freely expressing his desire to a woman57:50 Try this if you struggle to sub-communicate with women Two men are in a room, both interested in the same woman. Their behavior looks identical… but one expresses true desire, while the other carries neediness.What’s the real difference between them?Share your insights in the comments.ABOUT THIS VIDEO:Two men are in a room, both interested in the same woman. The first guy–we’d say his interest comes from a place of *genuine desire.* He loves how the girl looks, and loves even more how her presence in the room makes him feel. Whatever conspires between the two of them, he’ll enjoy his evening. The second guy–we’d say his interest is laced with *neediness.* He doesn’t actually like the girl–he likes what he can get from her. It could be sex. It could be a smile… a phone number. Validation, ultimately. It might _look_ like he really likes her, and heck, he might even believe that himself. An observer looking in wouldn't be able to tell the two guys apart.But, even though no one’s said a word, the woman has already understood volumes about each of them and sees a world of difference between the two. You know which guy she’d rather see again. But do you know *why?*In today’s episode, Zan and Jordan discuss the mechanics of _*desire, expressed*_ in their most detailed and practical breakdown of sub-communication yet. #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship ____________________________________________________Read The Full Amorati Guild Invitation → https://arsamorata.com/guild/____________________________________Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/____________________________________Get a gifted copy of The Alabaster Girl, personally signed by Zan Perrion. Go to https://alabastergirl.com____________________________________Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 :https://amorati.me/free-gift/____________________________________Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity____________________________________________________ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my vieSupport the show