Therapy Taught Me Boundaries, But Did I Become Selfish?

Did therapy teach us healthy boundaries, or did it make us harder to reach? In this episode of Salt and Lightheartedness, we’re talking about boundaries, therapy, people-pleasing, forgiveness, accountability, and the uncomfortable question many of us have had to ask: Are my boundaries helping me love with wisdom, or are they helping me avoid growth? Therapy can teach us how to protect our peace, name unhealthy patterns, and stop overextending ourselves. But sometimes, “protecting my peace” can become a polished way of avoiding hard conversations, humility, forgiveness, or responsibility. In this conversation, we unpack the difference between biblical boundaries and a hard heart, how church culture and therapy culture can both miss the mark, and why forgiveness does not always mean full access. We discuss: What boundaries really are The difference between boundaries and selfishness Why some of us needed boundaries in the first place How to tell if you are guarding your heart or building a wall Church culture vs therapy culture Boundaries vs avoidance Forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and access How to set limits without becoming cold, bitter, or unreachable Scriptures referenced, NKJV: Galatians 6:2 Galatians 6:5 Proverbs 4:23 Matthew 5:37 Romans 12:18 Matthew 18:15 Colossians 3:13 Question for the comments: Have you ever wondered if your boundary was wisdom, or if it was avoidance? Subscribe to Salt and Lightheartedness for bold, honest, biblical conversations about faith, healing, relationships, emotional growth, and the real-life issues Christians do not always talk about. #SaltAndLightheartedness #ChristianPodcast #Boundaries Timestamps: 00:00 Intro, Did therapy teach us boundaries or make us selfish? 03:00 The uncomfortable question about boundaries 05:00 Defining boundaries, selfishness, forgiveness, and reconciliation 10:00 Why many of us needed boundaries in the first place 18:00 Biblical boundaries vs hard hearts 26:00 Church culture vs therapy culture 36:00 Boundaries vs avoidance 46:00 Forgiveness does not always mean access 54:00 The hard mirror, the B.O.U.N.D. test, and final takeaways