“They Should Know Better!”: What to Do When Tweens & Teens Push Back

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking,“They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?”...this episode is for you.Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It’s keeping you stuck in a pattern that exhausts everyone involved.In this episode, Albiona uncovers one of the most common reframes she shares with parents of tweens and teens—and why learning to anchor yourself (instead of arguing back) is the shift that creates real change.She covers:What to do when your child’s behavior feels deliberateHow “they should know better by now” becomes a parenting trapWhy many parents escalate with their kids (and how to step out of the spiral)The phrase to stop saying (and what to do instead when emotions run high)How to set boundaries and hold compassion (without giving in again)Plus:Why overexplaining and lecturing rarely workHow small shifts—like setting limits quietly and clearly—change everythingA concrete example of how one parent solved morning chaos without yellingWhether your child is 9 or 16, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of your role as the anchor, not the mirror, when emotions rise.Resources & Links:Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona → https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call Want real-time parenting strategies personalized to your child and your triggers? Albiona’s currently enrolling for 1:1 coaching in early 2026. This 12-week container gives you the tools, support, and calm you’ve truly needed.Learn more + schedule your free call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-callFollow Albiona on Instagram → @theparentingreframeWatch the viral video this episode was based on → https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrNwRwbV/If this episode hit home:Please subscribe, rate, and review the show. Then send the link to a friend who's struggling with their tween or teen. It might be the exact reframe they needed. The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.