This Is Not Female Empowerment. Let’s Talk About ‘Before He Cheats’ EP 70

We all screamed this song at some point.“Before He Cheats” by Carrie Underwood was labeled a feminist anthem... a woman taking her power back.But was it?In this episode, I break down the lyrics we never really questioned: • Shaming another woman for not being able to “shoot whiskey” • Celebrating alcohol tolerance like it’s a personality trait • Calling public property destruction empowerment • And pretending fear is what fixes betrayalIf a man smashed a woman’s car with a bat, we would call it dangerous.So why did we call it iconic when a woman did it?This isn’t about defending cheaters. It’s about looking at double standards,  alcohol-fueled aggression, and the cultural messaging that told women rage was the same thing as power.Real empowerment isn’t loud.It isn’t destructive.And it doesn’t require humiliation to feel strong.If you’ve ever confused intensity for strength, this episode is for you.Ways to continue the work:🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateoneIf this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here