This Is Not Female Empowerment. Let’s Talk About ‘Before He Cheats’ EP 70

We all screamed this song at some point.“Before He Cheats” by Carrie Underwood was labeled a feminist anthem... a woman taking her power back.But was it?In this episode, I break down the lyrics we never really questioned: • Shaming another woman for not being able to “shoot whiskey” • Celebrating alcohol tolerance like it’s a personality trait • Calling public property destruction empowerment • And pretending fear is what fixes betrayalIf a man smashed a woman’s car with a bat, we would call it dangerous.So why did we call it iconic when a woman did it?This isn’t about defending cheaters. It’s about looking at double standards,  alcohol-fueled aggression, and the cultural messaging that told women rage was the same thing as power.Real empowerment isn’t loud.It isn’t destructive.And it doesn’t require humiliation to feel strong.If you’ve ever confused intensity for strength, this episode is for you.Looking for somewhere to have conversations like this?Every Wednesday at 8 PM EST, I host a free community call for women who are sober, alcohol-free, or questioning their relationship with alcohol. We talk about the stuff that comes with choosing to live differently... the rebuilding, the relationships, the identity shifts, the hard days, and figuring out what you actually want your life to look like now.You don't need to have it all figured out, and you don't need to be a certain number of days, months or years alcohol-free. Come listen, share, connect, and be around other women who get it.Join us for free → https://thedeliberateone.com/the-deliberate-community🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateoneIf this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here