TMIT 42: Storming & Transforming - A Roadmap for Periods of Transition

Happy 2026! We are back from New York and settling into a new reality in Delray Beach. For the first time in four years, our home is "Neufeld Only".We are currently in what we call the "Storming" phase. The routines aren't set yet, and everything feels like an experiment. But rather than looking at the friction as a problem, we are viewing it as a necessary part of the upgrade.In this episode, we share the roadmap we are using to navigate this transformation. Whether you are changing jobs, moving, or just resetting for the new year, these are the three commitments we are making to keep the system sound even when the days are messy.In this episode, we cover:[01:07] The Transformation: Why we decided to transition to a "Neufeld Only" household and treat it as a promotion for the kids (and us).[03:00] The "Storming" Phase: Why turbulence isn't a sign that things are breaking, but a sign that things are changing.[07:09] Commitment 1: Aligning the Leaders: The importance of "Head and Heart" alignment between parents before rolling out changes to the kids.[14:50] Commitment 2: Name and Embrace the Chaos: Why we are over-communicating that "this is just an experiment" so the kids don't panic about new routines.[16:00] New Skills: From can openers to alarm codes—giving kids the tools to step into their new roles.[21:23] Commitment 3: Defining Expectations: Danielle shares a childhood story about dinner party anxiety and why we can't expect our kids to execute tasks we haven't explicitly taught.Resources & Links:Concept: Tuckman's Stages of Group Development (Storming, Forming, Norming, Performing).Quote: "Every change of circumstance is an opportunity to learn, grow, and create value." — Arthur Brooks.Freebie: Want the "Neufeld Family Recipe Book" (our un-Christmas card)? Text or email us and we’ll send it to you.Quote of the Week:"It's not a sign that things are breaking, it's a sign that things are changing. We need to lean into the turbulence. If you walk into our house right now, you might catch us in the middle of a storm, but you won't see us panicking. Because we know the process is sound."