You're listening to the Impact Theory Podcast, your source of empowering ideas and actionable techniques from the world's highest achievers. Join host Tom Billu, serial entrepreneur and co-founder of the Billion Dollar Brand Quest Nutrition, on a journey to unlock your potential and realize your vision of success. Welcome to Impact Theory. Yeah, let's get started.
So welcome to the party. Here we go. It is early morning, by the way. The reason that we're recording this one at an unusually early time is because of the X Prize.
If any of you guys don't know about it. It's a really amazing organization. I'm on the board and they are all about trying to help usher in a new and better future, which is, I love that. So they're not futurists that just sort of dream empty dreams, but it's a group of people that are actually trying to put prizes together to incentivize people to attack some of the world's grandest challenges from education to cleaning up the ocean to getting us some into space.
So that's why, and we're flying today to NASA, Moffatfield at the NASA Ames Research Center. So I had to wear the NASA T-shirt in honor. And for those of us who don't know, where is that? That is a very good question.
That is up north in the Bay Area. Got it. Cool. That should be a lot of fun.
Yeah, it is. Yeah. So also guys, if you've noticed, we've done a couple of cameras, which is, so what do you think of all that? Like the new tech?
Yeah. So we're looking at what's going on with Facebook, sort of putting a chip on. It looks like Facebook is really going to make a run to up the production game and make things more like TV, which is, I think, really, really interesting. And I think it's going to be a battle between what YouTube is doing, which is also cool.
Have you tried red? No, I have not. It's pretty cool. Yeah, I can't say that they've really hit their final note.
I think what they're doing on the TV side is going to be probably the right next step, which I've been obsessed with somebody aggregating what's going on in YouTube, and it looks like YouTube is now going to aggregate what's going on in YouTube because surfing the channels on YouTube is a nightmare. So hard. Yeah. So you get stuck in these loops.
Like I remember one time, like if you, I'm fascinated by like disaster stuff. So like every now and then I'll get in like a loop of like the tsunami, right? And just it's insane. But then it's just like, you know, thing after thing after thing after thing about the tsunami or September 11th, it's just, you know, video after video after video of that kind of stuff or sharks.
It's like the algorithm hasn't quite figured out that you don't just want to go down one rabbit hole forever. So what they're doing now, I think, could be pretty interesting, really starting to think more like traditional TV, which even though like we're obviously moving away from TV and that you have to be right here right now kind of zone, but there is like it evolved over a very long period of time. I mean, we've had TV for like 70 years. So yeah.
And it's something to be said to about like just being able to pick a genre within it, because like when you flip on and you like turn on HBO, you kind of have an idea of what you would say. Yes. Yeah. Cindy, you were right.
I mean, that's exactly like our whole thesis. Right. So is just like Disney understood back in the day that watching a Disney movie needs to be predictable to a certain extent. So you're never going to come to impact theory and we're all going to be like whining and crying about the way that life is like it's always going to be action-oriented.
It's always going to be the sense of control, empowerment, all that. So understanding that your brand, it doesn't need to be one thing, one note, but it needs to be within an ideological ecosystem. Boom. All right.
Why don't we get to questions? Yeah. So far. It's so early.
It's so early. But like, what's funny? It's like we have like 36ish viewers right now. Well, so let's remember we have an international audience.
So for some of these guys, it's like four in the afternoon, but yeah, we got our East Coasters for nine o'clock for them. Yeah. And what time did you get up this morning? So I intended to get up at like maybe like four or something, but like I overslept my alarms and woke up at like four 40.
All right. That's still pretty early. Yeah. And so it was like dark as hell.
It was like quick, got everything ready and like together and then threw on this hoodie. I had a different outfit, actually. But then I got here. Well, no.
Like I got here and it was still cold. Yeah. And so I was just like, well, I'm not going to take it off yet. And then now here we are.
Here we are. All right. Now we'll actually get to the first question. Okay.
So this one comes from Dan Bro. Do you aim to act before you think before allowing yourself to overthink? Are you like Mel Robbins mentioned in the five second role? Let me see.
Let me interpret that question. So do I do I go out of my way to act before I can get caught in a loop of overthinking? Yeah. And I think we all have like the thing that we struggle with for me overthinking isn't the one I've really at this point got did I used to maybe but I've so trained myself now that momentum matters and I'm always thinking about momentum and I'm not embarrassed by failure and I'm never afraid to look stupid.
So it's like, I don't get stuck in that like the thing that messes with me is hot showers. Hot showers. Like there. There's this quote.
All right. I don't remember who said it. So forgive me. But fatigue makes cowards of us all.
And there is something to when you're just exhausted that yeah, all of a sudden like your identity begins to fray at the edges because it's like, I don't know that I can bear to like push forward. So I totally get that quote and a lot of my identity is about fighting through that like today I found myself in the gym like sign constantly. I just have no energy today. So literally everything you see doing now is like using all of my constructs to stay high energy physical things pushing my personality forward things to overcome the fact that today for whatever reason I have no sort of natural energy I'm having to like push it all.
So hot showers like has that like thing for me where I get in the shower and I have all these intentions. I'm going to change the world. It's going to be amazing. And then I get in the shower and I'm like, dude, I just want to stand here.
So that literally I have to be careful about showers because if it weren't like if water conservation weren't a thing, I would I would still be in like my first ever like I just it literally I don't know it's so it is so comforting and so it puts me in like this super alpha brainwave state. So it's like meditating. It's the same reason that I can't just let myself meditate all day because it feels so good. That's so interesting.
So that's my thing. I mean, so I don't get at least not anymore. I'm sure I did back in the day, but for such a long time now I've used all the mental constructs to keep myself going and really get momentum. The one thing that challenges momentum for me is hot showers crazy.
That is so fascinating just in the sense where it's like, so do you like lower the temperature of your shower then? Like is it cold? Like slightly cold. Well, I know you hate being cold, but like lukewarm.
Not even like it. No, he's like still blasting it. It's hot. Hot hot hot.
And there have been times where either you're traveling and there's no either when you're traveling and the shower like doesn't quite get hot or oh my this is I won't be real too much. But everybody has a pet peeve, mine is showers without doors. I'll boycott a hotel if they don't have doors on their shower. So just like the no shower curtain or no door, it's like straight open.
So it's glass and it just stops. And then like has this huge gap. I just I want to indiscriminately punch people. That's so weird.
Like I feel like I haven't encountered a lot of showers like that. Dude, don't it's not good. It's bad mojo. Yeah.
It's bad mojo. Oh, that's so funny. Okay. So our next question comes from Boo Hang.
What do you think of supplements like lion's mane where people say it has benefits for the brain? Man. So here's my general thesis on supplements. I was just thinking about this today.
So the company reached out and they want me to get involved and they're a supplement, a new tropic. So literally exactly like this. And my thing is I'm not sure that they work and I have a hypothesis. Basically, if something works, it freaks the government out and therefore they're going to regulate it and it's not going to be on the generally recognized as a safe list, which are the only things you can actively put in stuff.
So they have this, you know, cornucopia of things that they consider safe. Those are the things that you can put in a supplement. And if they really have big impact, like there were a lot of fat burners on the market, I'm forgetting the name of the famous one where the baseball pitcher, I think he was, like dropped dead, the fedra, yeah. So that actually worked.
And so the government like just regulated the shit out of that. So and that's usually what happens if something's really like, if you get a physiological response that's exaggerated, then they're going to regulate it. And if the physiological response isn't exaggerated, then you're taking the supplement, but you're not entirely sure that it works. So there's certain supplements that I know some people swear by, but I don't take any because I've never noticed them to be very efficacious.
And then also I have a real fear that when something isn't processed by the body that you can get like weird imbalances. So like I used to be really, really into fish oil and I'm no longer convinced that's like the mojo, like backing it up and getting to precursors. And this is something that, so hormone supplementation, that's another thing that really freaks me out just because it's exogenous, you can get your body into an imbalance. And I think what you're going to see, and I'm definitely out of my element here, but I think what you're going to see over time is people working harder and harder to get to the precursors, to get to the building blocks, to get to the things that feed into that.
So I don't even know what lines I mean is, I've never heard of that. So it's entirely possible that it's like a precursor to something interesting. But yeah, I try to get to things through more natural means. So like I would never supplement for cognitive benefits if I wasn't already working out, right?
If you're not eating right and working out, there's just such huge, simple, basic, natural processes that you can take advantage of to not do those first and to try to slather something on top of it just seems a little crazy. And then there's sort of the state-sanctioned ones, like caffeine, I caffeinate, not really intentionally because I don't get hit by stimulants, like whether I have caffeine or don't, I don't notice a difference. And people see me, they'll see me drinking diet coke a lot or like my diet snapple here. The reason that I rock them is for hunger management, it's not for caffeine or anything like that.
Yeah. There was once upon a time where I could drink a monster and then go take a nap. I can still do that. So I totally fill you on that.
But they make my icing. Yeah. Yeah. Like I used to cane as the Brits say.
I used to cane like three monsters a day and I started noticing by the end of the day I kept doing this. I kept like pressure on my eyes just felt really nice. I'm like, what is this? I have all this dying.
So I thought it's probably vaso restriction or something like that, constriction, something like that. Okay. So we've gotten a few comments that the audio is a little low. Audio is low.
Interesting. Yeah. We can. Well, we'll try and crank it up for you guys.
Is that better? Is it better now? It gets better. Let us know if it's better for you guys.
All right. Moving on to our next question. This one comes from Stephen Miles. How do you handle competing simultaneous good ideas?
Yes. So you have to do things sequentially and that's one of the biggest pains in the ass is for me. We're getting a good on sound. Good.
Nice. So that's the thing that maybe we can't hear you at all. We got to get you like a micro something so that you're in our ears. So we can tell you're trying to communicate something.
But what that would be? We're not really sure. So things have to be done sequentially and that yeah, that's a huge pain. But really focusing on one thing at a time is super critical to getting things over the finish line.
And this is something that not enough people think about. Getting something over the finish line is the key. So it gets really boring. And there's just an innate boredom to especially when I conceptualize it as being an entrepreneur.
One of the things that every now and then just sort of tongue in cheek and for fun I'll document is when we're doing something really boring or stupid like this morning I should have filmed at least I spent like an hour wrangling cables and it's like that shit is so dull but it has to be done. Like otherwise you get right up to it like you've got all these grand ideas you're going to change what you can do this amazing stuff. And then cables are the thing that stop you right. And so that's one of the things that makes Amazon so amazing is they get it like on a tactical level just from a how do you improve the customer experience blocking and tackling blocking and tackling right.
It's not sexy but you've got to do it the blocking and tackling. So it's the same thing with doing things sequentially you'll get these great ideas you want to do them all and you can do them all. There's so much time in life but you just can't do them all at the same time. So breaking them into and if they stack and that like this concept that Tim Ferriss has a lead domino like finding that what is the so if you've got these five things that you want to do the order that you do them can be really critical.
And then I know that in saying that I'm paralyzing people because they're like well I don't know what the order is. And yes that's one of the things you have to get good at is really identifying what is the sequence of which things are optimally done and the only way to do that is to stop and think through it and think okay what's the lead domino if I do this then what are the other things that fall. So take for me speed reading or the way I do it audible that was like the lead domino. If I can train myself to assimilate information faster then I can get a skill faster and if I can get a skill faster then I can execute faster.
So I actually put a lot of early energy into learning to listen to audible books at 3x right. So people always think that like I'm crazy and part of me is always hoping like someone will say show me your audible right now I want to see that it's actually a 3x because it's like I put so much energy and effort into like being able to do that and people think that oh well you just have some lucky skill it's not that like anything you just push yourself to do it and I'm absolutely horrific at speed reading so if I hadn't gotten into audible I would have really really had to force myself to do that because it's a lead domino. So find those things that are the lead dominoes and just ask like what's going to if I do this thing what's the one that gives me the exponential result on the other stuff. Oh yeah.
Speed reading. I took a class on that when I was like younger because I really love to read all the time and like my teacher actually got upset with me because like she was like there's no way that you're reading this fast but it's because like I read every day all the time when I was like yeah younger. What were you reading fiction or nonfiction? I was mostly reading fiction because I was like you know into novels and narrative like that.
What was the novel choice? I mean I was big I was big into Harry Potter. Okay so I forget how young you are like Harry Potter did not come along for me until I was in my 20s. Yeah I mean like I'm a 90s baby.
You ready for like a surprising fact what shades of gray that series out sold all the Harry Potter novels combined by like some crazy factor I was like what I literally had no idea that book crushed Harry Potter yeah who would have thought yeah I know right I mean pink goes suburban I think was the quote was that definitely is what happened he's crazy I'm super curious about that. Have you read it? 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right now i promise is something that you love to do and most people dismiss it and they dismiss it probably because they don't know how to monetize it they don't think it could be a job they don't think it can be a business their family and friends have told them you know that that's silly or stupid or whatever and so they never realize like they're they literally have a blinder to the fact that there is something in their life that's a raging interest it may not be quite a passion but it's like a raging interest and so i'm always trying to start there so the example i always give to people of a raging interest is video games so a lot of people like to play video games or they like to read or whatever right so it's like the thing that they go and do when they're sort of you know um contracting into themselves what they've had a rough day or whatever or even jesus food like people really retreat into food right and so um imagine becoming a food blogger right it's like food is that thing that gives you comfort it's that thing that you think you have this negative relationship with you've got this really unstable thing where you eat and feel guilty whatever like if you could recognize that okay this is something that i love there is a way to find a healthy relationship with this i'm gonna do that and then i want to talk about it and i'm gonna you know connect with other people and even if in the beginning you don't know how to make money at it like do it because it will make you feel alive right and there's a great quote and again well i'm really forgetting my quotes today of who said it but it was like don't worry about what you could be great at do the thing that makes you feel most alive because what the world really needs is people who've come alive and so like if you tap into that thing that makes you feel alive like that to me is the juice so turn in where don't dismiss it no matter how silly or stupid it might be like what does that thing that makes you feel most alive so that's always where i'm starting so when you think about um what we're doing at quest or now what we're doing with impact theory those were both moments where i turned inside and said okay what are like what's me following my bliss and i'm i'm just i've i feel like i am naturally very empathetic so i actually enjoy seeing other people win and while that i get it from an evolutionary standpoint if you know the whole selfish gene theory it actually goes into it's not it's not so important that you survive it is only important that your genes survive which is why family so big which is why tribe is so big um you know that we have this natural resonance with those groups because in them usually are contained certainly and family is contained our genes so helping your niece or nephew um from a gene perspective is just as useful as protecting yourself and your own offspring so like i'm i just have like maybe that dialed up a little more than most people so i really really enjoy seeing other people succeed and then on top of that like i love my family and so i saw them really really struggling with food and my business partner was really good is really good at nutrition and so it was like wow this could be a really awesome opportunity for me to um help uh my family and then i wasn't stupid i knew that there were you know hundreds of millions maybe a billion or more people that struggle with food in the exact same way that my family does so it was like okay we could do that i could be really really passionate about it and then impact theory is to me wellness is a 360 degree thing it wasn't the body was just a way to get to the mind for me and that's really how i think about it and the you know so much change for me um so without really belaboring that point i think that that's relatively clear um so i identify that thing that is me chasing my bliss and then i start working backwards and all the way to where you get to the tactical right so if we're going to um do impact theory here's how it went all right what do i really want to do i want to um i want to empower people mentally i think that there's a massive struggle going on right now with um anxiety depression uh the second leading cause of death in the u.s for young men is suicide like that's just crazy to me and it's the number one leading cause of death in other countries and so just you know looking at that and looking at even if like somebody's not in danger of committing suicide like the you know the question i used to ask at the end of every inside quest episode was what is the definition of a life will live because i'm really obsessed with that concept of you know what does it mean to fully express a human life to live it to its fullest and to me it it all comes down to mindset like that's it like that's the lynchman that's the keystone right and if you know what keystone is in a in like an arch there's one stone that's actually holding everything together that's why it doesn't fall and if you move that keystone then literally just crumble that one thing and so you know that that is in in in a life will live that keystone is mindset and if you have a mindset that's empowering it's really just the sort of basic beliefs that you choose to believe um then you can do so much more than you would otherwise so if that's what we're trying to give to the world we're really trying to help people what's the no bs answer of how to do that and i believe that the answer is narrative and so okay if the answer is narrative and we're going to and it's narrative and it's businesses right because that's the way that we really interact with the world and we create these um sorry baby if you can shut the door the sun is like aligning and i keep trying to use the camera to block no no no it's coming in through the kitchen thank you so funny because i was like oh usually there's like black down so like you know we started it was still there uh there we go um so yeah just um looking at narrative looking at the importance of narrative and how you're how you would execute against that so it's like okay um how do you get people to listen to narrative because the hardest part is um getting that out into the world and why because you're guessing at what's good for people so wow wouldn't it be great if the community like you could do something that's sort of low barrier to entry and then the community would choose from this massive array and then they would say these are the five ideas that we like and then you only have to back those five ideas right so that's the idea behind impact theory is okay we're going to start in um written and um comics because they're very cheap but you can imagine a gigantic universe it's also stuff that people can submit and so we become the technology layer uh where so phase one build the community right then layer technology over it and then ask the community to submit ideas and then have the community um upvote them essentially and then you get to the very limited number of things that we're going to push and promote now the one thing that has to be inherent in all that and that's why um it probably seems like we're talking primarily about mindset and business because we need that ethos so going back to the earlier thing that we were talking about with Disney is um Disney had a brand and you knew what to expect from a Disney film we need people to understand what to expect from an impact theory company and an impact theory piece of content it needs to be making the world a better place it needs to be empowering like those are just things that have to be so I don't want to keep walking through the nitty gritty of it but that's my process right so I'm just walking back and saying what what is the no bs answer to how you do this and if you're like it's not always going to be pretty it may not even be something you want to be involved in but if you're willing to say that really would work like I know our three-step plan will work I don't know if we can execute against it I just know that it's real so because it goes down to what Elon Musk refers to is getting to the physics of a problem so we've boiled down our grand desire to um make sure that empowering uh the empowering mindset reaches everybody on the planet that's really like if you boil it down to sort of its non-economic um what we're trying to get to that's it and then just asking okay if I didn't I couldn't change behavior but instead had to leverage existing behavior how would I execute against that and that's how we ended up with narrative and companies and um yeah there it is that's how I walk through the process I could literally go on that all day all week but we'll stop there well we'll eventually have a piece of content centered around goal setting I think yeah I feel like it's official all right so this one comes from Sebastian um my friends and bandmates dismiss me for starting to work hard on my future I think they're afraid of being left behind but I can't give them the right mindset to go the way with me have you have you ever experienced this every day every day so I mean this is where um most people live and I actually get asked a question a lot like how do you um how do you help somebody who you love get the empowering mindset right when they're resistant and the answer is you don't so don't spend your energy on the people who aren't ready to change yet and also the great thing that people say about kids I don't have kids but this just sounds like the greatest advice ever to me because it's certainly true of employees don't um don't try to tell people what to do because you can't always count on them to listen but you can always always count on them to watch and so if you're leading by example if you're just doing it all the time all the time all the time like then it really begins to seep into the culture and that's why I struggled this quest got bigger and bigger it was like Jesus not a lot of people can see what I'm doing so that becomes difficult because now you only know what I say but I know that people aren't listening all the time so that that's really tricky and that's why you have to really empower your leadership is to get bigger and bigger because everyone needs someone that they see every day all day they need to see them living what you're talking about versus just repeating it um so man live uh live the empowering mindset your bandmates are going to be watching you maybe some will you know get into that and they'll see like that your life is improving and honestly you may have to ditch them like I hate to say that but dude you can't let people drag you down and I can't think of anything more like a family than a band especially if you guys are touring or anything so there are people out there that that will respond to the mindset um that that won't heckle you as you're you're trying to grow and here's the thing if they're heckling you it's gonna slow you down it may not stop you but it will slow you down just because they're not giving you ideas you're having to come up with all the ideas yourself so I highly encourage people to be very selective about who they hang out with hashtag truth all right guys just a reminder to make sure that you share this live feed um in order to win a book off of Tom's reading list yes please share share help us grow and by the way only share if you think that we're adding value that's the thing if this the content adds value to your life then please share yeah so it's like pass on the positivity like the value add all of that all right so this next question comes from Johan um how can I manage my relationships with my colleagues when the culture at work is all about fixed mindset and selfishness and mine is the opposite give me the beginning of the question I was just tripping out that we just had Johan and Sebastian back to back sorry sorry we're hitting that international crowd right now so yeah how can I manage my relationships with my colleagues when the culture at work is all about fixed mindset and selfishness and mine is the opposite get out while you can get out while you can like if truly the company has a cultural fixed mindset there are just too many companies out there that don't get out get out like it will drag you down it's a losing battle you're never gonna be able to convince them so it's hard enough when you own the company to like really affect culture um if you're just in the culture and you can't sway like the proclamations you can't get the leadership to act in a certain way it just the wow it it's possible but it would require so much of your energy that I just can't recommend it well that's easy enough yeah that's true all right so this one comes from Daniel or actually Dan bro um when you started Quest did you expect it to grow to the level that it did and what was your goal yes just did not expect it to grow that fast so you know going in anything like right now impact theory I believe one day that people are gonna look back on this and be like whoa in fact there used to be small um but you have to do that like you have to really think about it you have to allow yourself to see that so I was at 20th century fox last night um and by the way if you guys aren't following me on Instagram get on that IG game uh doing doing that live uh not live feed but um IG story last night walking around 20th century fox and just thinking oh it's gonna be really cool when we've got you know a future studio is gonna look very different but just the scale right so I was walking around thinking about the scale and how we're gonna get there and like the making sure that we're taking the right steps and I thought this moment right here is is actually why we're going to get there because I'm thinking about it and not like I was believing it right so if you're able to conceptualize and you're able to really allow yourself to be filled by belief in the thing that other people just think of that's impossible and understand the only thing that separates um most people I mean look there's a high degree of execution I'm well aware of that but the the real thing that stops people is they never learn how to execute because they don't allow themselves to believe that they could actually do it and therefore they never get started and getting started being being willing to learn from your mistakes like making it in your mind inevitable that you'll be successful like that really really matters right that really matters and then you just have to take the steps to continue to like you'll feel it like when you have this vision of inevitability in your mind and you're walking in a path that doesn't feel like it takes you to your inevitable outcome that's like one of the things that lets you know like listen to your instincts and adjust course but if you don't believe it's inevitable then walking towards failure feels right because the failure seems inevitable and so now every step feels in accordance with the inevitability of the failure and so the steps will actually feel right while that's like I'm actually thinking about that in real time that is what happens is you don't feel out of alignment with the thing you really believe which is that you're going to fail and so it's very easy to keep going in that direction be aware of failure be aware of yeah running the corner running the corner let's talk about the most powerful force in wealth building compounding there's a reason that people have talked about this forever you put an asset to work it generates more of itself over time the curve bends way in your favor every serious wealth builder knows how compounding works most gold owners though have completely opted out of it monetary metals changes that equation they've built away for your gold to earn yield paid not in dollars but in more physical gold up to four percent per year more ounces stacking every single month compounding in one of the only assets that can't be printed inflated or debased and storage and insurance are included by the way so hidden fees don't eat your yield the average person is passively absorbing inflation this is how you compound your way out of it click the link in the show notes or visit monetary dash metals dot com slash impact to learn more this is a paid advertisement all right so damper actually wants to know what i'm reading currently um so i do this where things so i read audiobooks like kindle books and then like a paper book and so right now different they're all different interesting yeah so i don't i don't know why i do this now but it's like it's my thing so i just finished on audible you can't touch my hair by fibi ravenson okay is that fiction no it's not fiction okay what's it about so she's uh a comedian and she's just kind of like talking about like her memoir experiences and the industry and everything um and then it's kind of framed around like you can't touch your hair because it's like it's like a weird thing that people tend to do to like black girls or just like black people in general is like touch their hair because like it's different right um and it's just like a violation of personal space i would say yeah but like people don't even think about it that way they literally just reach out and touch your hair i don't remember like being in like elementary school and stuff and like sitting in like a little circle or like whatever someone behind me literally like playing with my hair and i was like who isn't it and like anything is when you're that young like you don't even register that like someone's actually like in your bubble right even though they tell you it's like keep your hands to yourself but anyway so yeah you can't touch my hair so that's the one i just finished on audible the next up is going to be platform revolution actually and then for kindle i'm reading the misadventures of awkward black girl by use array um because like i love her series and secure like i used to watch her on youtube series yeah and so i'm just like finishing that up i think i'm like halfway done with it and then big magic i'm only like a few pages in because it's like the what's been magic so it's a little bit gilbert's book about like creativity so these are all nonfiction books actually um but that one is like a slower read because of paper one and usually i only read it at nighttime if like i still have a lights on and then like i'll switch to the kingdom so it's like a whole process thing but yeah so that's what i'm currently reading so you know about it yeah all right and then this one comes from sod well actually what are you currently reading so i am rereading stealing fire i had to go through it really fast for um the interview with jamie wheel and it's just been really really on my mind fascinating i did a podcast with the mind pump guys which was actually a lot of fun i'm excited for that when to come out and we were talking about that microdosing largely which is now like my obsession which is still i'm not messing with but it's very intriguing so going back to supplements that work uh so i hear um so really wanted to dive in so i can do a book review on it and i just find the the conversation is fascinating it is so yeah that um that's what i'm reading and then i've we've got some got a lot of cool guests coming up in march um and so i'm going to be reading all the books that correspond to the interviews nice yeah so it's like one of my favorite classes from undergrad was actually a drugs and behavior class really that's okay so it was like uh psych class or maybe it's neuroscience class or something that i took and um it was like all about your brain on drugs and like the ways that affects it like so we looked at the mr as we like talked about the stories like the performance and stuff so it's like sometimes you leave the class and you'd be like i should probably do a little quote like and you're just like wait yeah because it's like but like obviously not in crazy doses but it talks about how it like mimics like you know even things like at all and so it's like the it's almost like a slow relief problem um that pause that pause though anyway um you know i've never done it because somebody um a because i'm afraid of drugs and then b because somebody told me that it like they ceased to have a personality they were like your focus just like comes into like this laser beam it it becomes a little like tunnel vision yeah like that i don't know i don't know i don't know i'm not like morally opposed to it yeah i'm literally what am i worried about it's identity right so i think that doesn't do drugs and i really have to think i really have to think about that because um if micro dosing of um psychedelics is as so here this is literally the the thing that's weighing on my mind so if micro dosing does not make you feel like you're on drugs which is what i'm told so you're not like tripping out but makes it so that you can make connections in your brain like far-flung connections so it's basically creativity on tap when you're trying to solve a business problem what you're looking for is always creativity you're always looking for that moment of inspiration so that's one of the reason the whole idea of think-attaining so before i heard about micro dosing or anything like that that's why i was think-attaining so i would meditate and i would realize like whoa i would be stopping myself from thinking about things that were utterly fascinating and i was making these connections and so then i started like keeping a computer by me because i was like while i'm meditating i have like these really awesome insights and so then i thought i'm like in this you know where if you set an ac to turn on and off at the same temperature it's like it freaks out um so i felt like that like i'm trying to tell myself not to think to just breathe but i'm having like these amazing thoughts so i'm like okay there's gotta be solutions so then i just started sequentially i would meditate tell myself just get into that alpha wave state and then okay now i'm here let the you know flood begin and really start thinking through somebody's problems so if that's like a minor form of what happens when your micro dosing then it's like is it just the stigma and then if yeah but obviously i have issues with longevity and i don't like to do things that mess with my brain and so it just gets it gets it gets tough i think it's tough yeah i mean that's part of like what i i feel like i learned in drugs and behavior that like in smaller doses like all these different drugs actually have like benefits like in terms of like your brain or like focus connectivity and like creativity relaxation and all that so it's like it's just interesting to see but the problem is that everything is kind of good for you in moderation but everyone always bullshit like hits that bullshit not everything is good for you in moderate i think that is like the craziest statement ever people say that all the time like with diet people are always saying that oh it's everything in moderation no it's not well i mean you gotta figure out what for you but like i'm saying like you're not going to do like 17 lines of coke or something like you're getting but is there any amount of coke that like is like literally like like my class ed like a little bit none and would you admit it if you had so yeah i'd get it and oh god so how about this overdoing things is bad yes i will it's just not all things in moderation i'm not going to run out later and have some spider venom because like moderation i feel like it's like a sliding scale of whatever so but overdoing it for sure overdoing it is usually bad as i learned with my monster energy drinks right stinky eyes when you like couldn't see basically you can see it just hurt a little i'm all that supposed to hurt they're not supposed to hurt that was tip number one all right so this one comes from sod um what advice would you have to motivate youth into productive action i interact with thousands of students and young professionals struggling to find their footing in life including entrepreneurship social balance and disappointment over the education system largely failing them don't try to change behavior try to leverage it right so that's always where i start so i would try to back into like what do so that like the reason that reverse psychology works is one of the things that nature ensures that kids have a certain age to do is they rebel why because they need to establish their own identity they need to come out from under you they need to become their own person i mean that's otherwise like mothers literally have the impulse to hold on and so that would be it and the mother would end up having to take care of the child forever um so there is this you know one of the results of the hormonal craze that is puberty pushes people to really step out so um you get people trying to leverage that behavior by being um reverse psychology right telling them not to do something that you actually want them to do because they do it by rebelling i mean they're too clever for it to really work but like that's the concept so if you're finding things that they um that they're already doing like how can you sneak in messaging so one of the things that i actually haven't talked about this um inside um impact theory yet but i'm beginning to think that one of the ways that we reach youth is by going into the inner cities is my particular fascination because i think they're the people that are sort of farthest from where they need to get to but going into the inner cities and um leveraging things like the desire to collect so this whole notion of digital baseball cards which empowering ideas um so making things only become valuable when they're actually scarce so there's this whole thing called the blockchain i won't derail us now but it's utterly fascinating the blockchain can actually make digital things um limited edition so that's why bitcoin works because that quarter i know they're not called quarters but that bitcoin or whatever like a real life quarter it is physical and therefore it is limited uh the same is true of a digital bitcoin it actually is limited in the way that it all works a i don't understand well enough to explain and the i don't think it matters but it you know that you have something that's limited so if we could go in knowing that humans and kids especially really get into collecting things if we could find a way to insept them with um empowering ideas on some sort of collectible card that they can play with i don't know we have to figure that out but leveraging that desire to collect to have something that other people don't have but then transmit some empowering ideology but like a lot of this stuff revolves around play gamification so my short answer as i sort of process this out loud is gamify it you have to find a way to gamify it so that's why video games work video game companies employ psychologists and neurologists quite frankly to they watch people play video games while they're while they're in an fMRI machine so that they can see like is the game essentially addictive and so you have to make the empowering behavior addictive so that they're going to come back to it so that they want to do it um things become addictive because you're leveraging natural impulses the reward system in the brain you just have to find a way to do that if it's not intrinsically rewarding they're not going to do it right so um why am i so obsessed with empowering behavior because it feels good and why do i um like to read so much because of those ideas in fact i'm thinking about this this this morning why don't i like working out because it takes away from my time to read and that's really the frustration that i have is it isn't the physical effort it's that i could be doing something else and i'm i feel so constrained in my time and any one day that i resent that working out is so effective at supercharging my mind right so it's not intrinsically pleasurable for me and the way that reading is like when i come across something in the book that like i think oh my gosh i can use this that like gives me a dopamine rush right and i want to turn the page to get to the next thing that i'm going to be able to use i don't get that same thing in working out i have to remind myself that to be where i'm at cognitively i have to do this because the brain um body connection is just a reality if i didn't believe that i would never work out so gamify huh that's so interesting especially considering like all the studies in terms of like working out in the endorphins that give you and i literally do not get those or i get them on some such minor level that i don't i don't um experience it in my conscious mind huh that's so interesting i mean because like i'm definitely one of those like endorphin people like even though i was like oh like this kind of suck by the end of it it's like that was so weird and i feel great i really don't and like today i kept saying like every set was just like exhausting and i was like i could in this i was this morning that i was thinking about i was like i could be reading right now which recharges me it makes me feel more violent makes me feel alive makes me feel effective and i feel like all these grand goals that i have in my life what we're trying to do with impact theory like when i read i get closer right i get closer to being able to execute i get closer to that knowledge that i need in order to accomplish something it feels so tangible and like yeah i don't know it makes me feel closer and i intentionally don't finish that with any word it just makes me feel closer all right well on that note as well if this one comes from Vanessa what do you do to overcome your exhaustion there are a lot of things you can do physically so one of them is um stand up straighter another is what i call pushing your personality so right now if you let's say that you have a crush on somebody and they walk in the room all of a sudden you're gonna stand up a little bit straighter you're going to like hey you know like doing those things like hey you ready so you'll notice i begin every episode the same way hey everybody welcome to another episode of it doesn't matter what we're doing that's true the only thing i don't do that on are the quotes because we're trying to do something different i even used to start that with everybody welcome to another that is my pathological way to become high energy and to lower my anxiety so like if i were because doing inside questions to really freaking out because i was not used to being on stage was not used to um like being the center of attention like that and so it wasn't something i really wanted just something i could see would be very effective so um i needed like that thing to get me into the zone and so without really intending it it became that so hey everybody like so i'm just doing this like saying that i have that gets me into this i'm speaking louder like when we're checking levels i always check levels for hey everybody welcome to another episode right because it's the thing that i do the most high energy so also talking faster i force myself to talk faster and in talking faster your brain has to speed up so in getting my brain to speed up like all of a sudden like even in this episode like about 10 minutes in i think was when i started saying like oh today i'm really low energy i realized oh wow like i've actually like gotten high energy by doing all of these things even though yes so um those are those are some but i always use physicality to get to mentality that's why workout my muddy connection maybe word all right so this is from craig so he says um could listening to an audiobook solve that working out like getting you closer towards your goal situation nope no no you never ever ever ever i listen to music okay yeah yeah so when people tell me oh i work out of it when people tell me that um oh i listen to podcast while i work out i think how do you work out like i can't i can't pay attention to two things at once man if people either can like kudos to you i used to try to practice my greek while working out because i thought the same thing i thought okay the time is my frustration so i'll read a book i'll practice my greek and then i found like the time between sets would be like two and three minutes and then all of a sudden i was in the gym for two hours but i was only doing an hour worth of work and i thought this is dumb i'm not getting like mentally i'm not fully present and physically i'm not fully present so instead i just had to accept it when i listen to music music puts me into a certain like energetic state and then i use that energetic state to do the complimentary thing of working out the only time i read is if i'm doing cardio because i need a mental distraction and i don't do um i don't usually do hit cardio so high intensity interval training i don't normally do that um so i'm i'm doing slow steady state boring cardio because it's what i can convince myself to do because i hate cardio um so that's just that truth it's just true the nothing is good i'm just saying it is um so that i can get myself to do because i allow myself to read and um the greatest example of this is when i was reading man's search for meaning by victor frankle which is about a true story uh autobiography of victor frankle who um was i can't ever remember if he was a neuroscientist or neurosurgeon he was one of the two but he survived um i think five concentration camps including Auschwitz and he just details why some people die in a concentration camp like just die versus obviously if the um the guards shoot somebody but he was saying like so many people they would just give up and he said three days later they'd be dead and he said you could see it and it was people that didn't find meaning in their suffering and so literally the guys talking about that and how can you not like crush your cardio because it's like all right this is easy compared to what this guy went through and that book by the way is just incredible it's so incredible i actually i think it is um it is shame shame shame on any high school that let somebody graduate without them reading man's search for meaning literally shame i don't even think that was like on any of our reading list but yeah so but it's not mine you read it not yet it's like one of the things where it's like i have all these so i have a list and like i am one of those people who i just like kind of choose what but i get it and i put this one off for a long time i think it was tony robins i had it on like a standing list people always asking like you know what are the books that influence you most and he said man's search for meaning for frankly and i heard for a long time and you know i have all this respect for tony and um just didn't read it didn't read it didn't read it and then i read it and this is like how you know how people get really weird when they like really like a food and you don't like it and they just want no but try this one you really like this time that's why i'm with this book man i just want everyone to read it it is so good and when i say good it will it will change you you will not look at your life or anyone else's life the same ever again because if the thing that helped people survive a concentration camp is mindset how do you survive a job mindset how do you deal with a bad relationship mindset right like the if the answer to how do you survive a concentration camp is mindset finding meaning finding purpose in your suffering it's the answer to everything there we go secrets of the universe answers are meaningful all right so this one comes from pet sounds Ian all right so on your website you wrote we want to build things directly and help others build things that solve what we believe to be the world's biggest challenges truth what challenges do you have in mind and how does freeing people from the matrix help address these problems i i think the greatest challenge that we face as a society go back to the physics of a problem so what part of the human psyche is broken and that if you could fix it right so that's why the analogy for the matrix in the matrix the problem is people don't understand that what the real world is they don't realize that they're trapped they don't realize they're in a prison right so and i think the line in the movie something like how do you know that you're in a prison when you can't see taste metal touch here it and that's that's mindset right so if when looking at the world's biggest challenges versus problems the x-rise is all about the world's grandest challenges right so getting us to end of the planet cleaning up the ocean things like that the biggest problems starving to death right that's a problem uh mindset is a problem so to me like you can't solve the grand challenges unless you deal with the problem of mindset and so when i look at the world i see two pandemics that touch everything the pandemic of the body and the pandemic of the mind the pandemic the body's easy to see pandemic the mind is much harder it's invisible and has a stigma like people are super weird about mental illness right so even just getting away from that just calling it wellness like if if somebody is physically frail like nobody's weird about that because you know how to help them but when it's the mind people are super weird about it so um understanding that to me the solution to the problem seems very obvious that people don't have a perspective a framework a metaphor with which to understand the world so there's an awesome quote by Joseph Campbell you ready ready if you want to change the world you have to change the metaphor if you want to change the world if you want to change the world you have to change the metaphor so that's what we're trying to do we're trying to change the metaphor so that to me is like the biggest problem that's we're trying to solve and then how do you disseminate that ideology so i'm obsessed there's i'm literally uh i'm trying to make it happen so that i can fly to Denmark so imagine literally within within 12 minutes a meeting this guy two days ago i just are asking him questions right i love asking people questions so i'm asking him questions and he like starts talking about the things that he's doing and um so he works at Lowe's what do you do at Lowe's oh i'm in the i forget the exact name of it but it's it's um essentially their innovation department oh wow that's cool like what is Lowe's doing from an innovation perspective oh we actually have this um narrative innovation department stop what we have a narrative innovation department what does that mean we actually disseminate comic books why do you disseminate comic books i'm literally like freaking out right i start texting the team here i'm like you're never going to believe what i just met so i'm like what you have a comic i don't understand that like why do you have that oh well i did my doctoral thesis on how people assimilate truly assimilate disruptive information so i'm thinking okay wait a second that's literally like what we are about so i was like tell me more and he said oh i'm a neuroscientist by training and i've looked at so many people and their brain in fMRI machines and how they assimilate all this information and i've come to one very simple overarching conclusion the only way that human beings are able to assimilate truly disruptive information is narrative and i was just like oh my god so within 12 minutes of meeting this guy i said i want to come like where is your headquarters i have to see this and he's like denmark like we mean den i still don't even know why it's in denmark but i was like dude i'm coming to denmark when can i come literally like next week can we go next week and he was like oh funny enough i'm actually gonna be there in like it was a week and a half so i said awesome i'm pinging the team hey we got to find a way to get me on a flight to denmark because i really really believe to the core of my being that joseph campbell was right the only way to change the world is to change the metaphor and this guy has the scientific evidence to why that's true that we assimilate truly disruptive information through narrative and that's it like that's our Trojan horse and it comes back to don't try to change people's behavior try to leverage it right try to leverage what they're doing use that behavior and that's why why are we making all the social content because it's what people do they consume this content like 24 seven people are on their phones they're looking at the social content so i want to accept them i want to meet them where they are to give them what they need to empower themselves to do what they want to do church all right true so this one comes from thomas what yeah so this one comes from thomas do either of us use negative associations in order to change behavior i've started wearing a rubber band on one wrist every day and pull and snap it whenever i find myself beginning to check my email frivolously scrolling facebook etc to dissociate any positive reason why i do these things that waste my time do it what negative reinforcement um not i do i'm big on it it's huge this is why i say you have to know i'm doing it do you beat yourself up for anything uh occasionally yes but just randomly right like i'm very hard on myself so it's like i have to also know when to like pull back well so let's talk about that because there's using negative reinforcement as a tool and then there's beating yourself up right and most people i think it's stuck in make yes so it's like oh you're bad why are you doing this like see you're as dumb as everyone told you you were like that is not effective but i routinely use like directed pointed things very negative very aggressive comments towards myself about things that i've done that don't serve me that don't move me towards my goals and i think that's incredibly incredibly powerful but that is like it's like a gun you don't just give a gun to a kid right have you seen that footage of the the wedding where they were shooting guns when the guy sits down and kicks picks it up shoots him and kills him the kid's like two it's crazy anyway i don't want to derail it now but that literally that is that image is exactly how i feel about when i talk honestly about how i use negative reinforcement because i'm terrified that people who already have like they're stuck in negative loops that are already not serving them but that is the truth like once you get to the point where you believe in yourself you're totally focused on empowerment you do and believe that which moves you forward like once that's real in your life then one of the things you're gonna realize that actually when we move you towards your goals is self-flagellation punishing yourself for doing things that don't serve you that are that run contrary to the things you told yourself you're gonna do so like i have a 10 minute rule right when in the morning i look at the clock once i know i'm awake and 10 minutes i have 10 minutes to get out of bed if i miss it then i i'll think about it all day not obsessively but i will remind myself you didn't do it today like you said you were gonna in fact oh yeah okay no no i'm just there i'm just co-signing word for sure you don't start there because it can be super dangerous if you don't know when to stop but once you can effectively do the like praise and punishment that's when you're gonna get effective yeah so i mean i guess i i do do things like that where it's like i do remind myself like uh you knew you kind of knew better so it's like if i'm having an off day or like whatever or like i didn't finish the task in a certain amount of time that i hit set aside it's like okay so you didn't do it so what happened and all that kind of stuff so i go back and forth with myself in those ways and then i department self of things that i may otherwise enjoy oh go deeper what do you mean um so and this is like okay i failed to do something i told myself i was gonna do and therefore i'm not so like if let's say i wanted to have like a candy bar well it wouldn't be a candy bar it'd probably be like sour gummies because like i'm obsessed with sour gummies so it's like you know if i'm having to earn your sour gummies so i do i have to usually i have to earn them and like there are only a few times when i like allow myself to be like you know what like you did your best today and like i am fully aware that like things are just not going right for you you can still have it so it's like it's both like my reward and like punishment sometimes and like that's just like a simple one but like it's i feel like it's in your mind and your gummies because it sounds like you don't like that that that seems you're way better than i am not fully like there was one time about like probably a pound of like sour genny and like eat it just like in one sitting not in like one full sitting but like over the course maybe a couple hours and as you're doing it are you thinking like this is okay or you're like i should not be eating like i was doing it i was like super super fit at the time too so it's like it didn't feel as as bad like where i was like oh like i'm running like you know five miles day like if i want to eat like a bad gummies and then like i was like really like i was doing yoga and i was like doing bar and i was doing CrossFit and like all these different like activities and was like i think i have room i think i have room so it's like and i feel like it's also because i'm like so pretty young so it's like i can get away with it so it's like one of those things where like i feel like there will come a day when i'm like i kind of like really curve it but until i let's talk about that though because we went from like this is reward and punishment right you earned your sour gummies so i can get away with it yeah so it's like again it's like this like i don't know that's so interesting so i do similar things so like one of the and i do so we all know i don't love working out but i really really enjoy food with protein so like i enjoy my quest chips like unreasonably so but i don't allow myself protein on days when i don't work out so and i do that for inflammation reasons so i cycle through high protein days and high fat days and it is it has just been transformative in my life but i actually prefer eating the high protein stuff just because i love crunch like the crunch is so amazing and so um that's one of the ways like this morning right so i woke up super early and i thought wow like do i really need to get out of bed right now i thought wait wait wait what what do i have what can i leverage to like spring myself out of bed and i was like okay it'll be if i get up now because i didn't think i'd have time to work out because we're gonna be rolling at six and i have to pack some to travel today so i just thought it's never gonna happen right so i thought but oh man if i get up and i work out i get a protein all day it's gonna be amazing so that's how i sprung myself out of bed so using food as a reward but i have to use bright lines like i even have a number like there's a number of sets that if i do even though i've worked out it's not enough to qualify for a workout day right so i have to i have to have done at least three full exercises so not even just sets exercises so i'll do six sets per exercise i have to do three exercises if i do two or two and a half or two and three quarters bright line at three if i have not done three full exercises it's i counted that i did not work out that day right lines man have to have them for me like that's a super useful technique for anybody out there wondering like how do you hold yourself accountable bright lines bright lines bright lines like people used to think i was pretty i would be starving like right now i'm so hungry you can imagine i'm so hungry you can imagine and um i thought well like we're doing the the q&a i'm low energy today anyway like if ever there was a day where i have an excuse to eat before seven because we all know i don't eat before i feed my dogs and i don't feed my dogs before seven which by the way a couple times spawns i came in just off camera because he's in here begging he wants his food excuse me what's going on um so exactly so bright lines yeah steer by brightness the only way because otherwise like i would you know eating at eleven twenty nine seven thirty seven becomes eleven twenty becomes eleven becomes i'm eating my wake up and it's just like give him it was that thing give him a give him an inch they'll take a mile yeah there's another one give him house a cookie you know ask for a glass of milk something i don't know i've never heard that Nicholas j Robinson used to always say that i love that oh i have no idea all right so this is gonna be our final question this one comes from brian because we gotta get you rolling yeah what time is it it's seven oh wow this will be the last one this is the last one that would be an airport in less than an hour and a half yep okay so it's popular says happiness is a choice and i really like what you say about happiness is constructed in a result of design um can you elaborate on creating happiness versus it just being a choice yeah for sure so here it is it's just like the question about how do you become high energy when you're low energy there is and i'm so so thankful that this is the truth there is a connection between the mind and the body and when the mind isn't feeling it you can get to it through the body so if i'm not feeling happy then i will literally force myself to laugh out loud like that's a real thing i do that i don't have to do it as much anymore just because you really will come to see how true it is there's a connection think about things you're grateful for if you're in a bad mood force yourself to say three things you're grateful for but like really try to feel the gratitude i do too big and then one little or if i'm struggling if i can't think of big things that i'm grateful for then think of small things man like sunshine is awesome right i'm grateful for us i'm literally looking at the window right now and thinking about sunsets and like or sunrises like i love that's so beautiful and i'm grateful that i get to experience that i think about my wife smile a lot i love my my wife has this like smile that eats her whole face oh god like i just can't you know in fact right now it's putting me in a good mood just to tell you guys how much i love that smile that she has so and sometimes i drive her nuts because i'm like i want to take a picture of her and i'm like i want a really big smile and she's like you know okay so i'll do that one um so you know just it is so like as i'm explaining this it is happening to me just telling somebody what to do to get in a good mood is putting me in a good mood so it works that's what i do that's how you construct it use the body to get to the mind use the mind to get to the body like it is this self-reinforcing cycle so the days of my mind is there and my body's not then you know i'm using identity i'm using that i push through things narrative like i've got to will like come on do this prove something to myself and on the days where like my mind is just not there i i know that i have this repertoire of tricks of using my body together smiling raise your eyebrows it works it works do you know that Botox can actually impact depression because they can't frown how can you hear that that's amazing but they also can't empathize so yeah like i remember reading that like where it's like they kind of lose that like other layer of yes being able to like recognize other people's emotions and like have other people read them and empathize with them so i was like oh i'm staying awake with them yes that's weird i'm like i'm please one of my like superpowers i'm like i'm not giving that up i love that um i do you know i know we have to wrap okay but i'm gonna bet if you were to and how would we do this there's there's an fMRI way to do this there might be a hormonal way because there's uh there's certainly genes we could do a test on the employees here at impact three i promise you we score much higher than average on empathy i promise probably for sure all right and with that we have to wrap we have to wrap don't forget to share this live feed if it added value to your life today um and then also let us know in the comments you know what your big wins for the that was a question that i posed to the audience i like that yeah i want to hear about 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