Tommy - Transference

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m joined by Tommy.Tommy is in recovery. He is also a businessman, a dog dad, and the founder of Takeoff Monkey, a construction estimating business he built after drinking himself out of everything and starting again from nothing.We sit inside recovery, accountability, and what happens when one person starts to wake up.Not as ideas.As lived experience.We talk about what it means to admit fault in a relationship and then have that honesty turned back on you as a weapon.We stay with the tension of that.How owning your shit can be freeing.How it can also be dangerous in the wrong relationship.How one person doing the work cannot carry the whole burden for two.Tommy speaks openly about sobriety, obsession, and what happened when he got sober and realised the life he was in no longer fit. Not because she was a bad person. Not because he was above it. But because waking up changed the whole dynamic.We also talk about transference.How addiction does not just disappear.How alcohol can become work.How the pub can become the gym.How the same unconscious drive just puts on different clothes.This is not a conversation about being healed.It is about being honest enough to see the pattern.We talk about masculinity, emotional safety, repair, and how rare it is for two people to both take responsibility in the same moment.Because when they do, something shifts.Not perfectly.But enough.The question Tommy leaves for the next guest is this.Share your most guarded secret.Your most embarrassing fear.The thing you least want to say out loud.It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME In Session with a PsychotherapistHosted by Chad TaylorNo tips.No fixing.Just real conversations.Tommy Lather can be found at www.takeoffmonkey.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/tommylather/WEBSITEINSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFYGROUPS/COURSES: PATREON