Too Much vs Little Capacity

The difference between being too much and having too little capacity. When someone tells you that you are too much, they are actually telling you that their capacity is too small. It is not a fact about you. It is a fact about them. Your depth is not the problem. Their inability to hold it is. Imagine you are holding a cup of water and someone tells you that you have too much water. The truth is not that you have too much water. The truth is that their cup is too small to hold what you are offering. That is the difference between being too much and having too little capacity. When someone tells you that you are too much, they are not stating a fact about you. They are revealing a limitation in themselves. Your depth, your intensity, your big feelings are not flaws. They are just too much for people with small containers. And that is not your problem to solve. Keep looking for people with cups big enough to hold all of who you are. There is a concept in relationships called the container. It is the capacity that each person has to hold the feelings and experiences of their partner. Some people have large containers. They can hold joy and sorrow, celebration and grief, excitement and anxiety. They can be with you in your hardest moments without trying to fix you or pull away. Other people have small containers. They can only hold what is comfortable. When things get difficult, they shut down, withdraw, or make you feel like you are too much. The size of someone's container is not your fault. It is not something you can change by being smaller. You cannot shrink yourself to fit into someone else's small container. You need to find someone whose container is big enough to hold all of you. If you have been told your whole life that you are too much, I want you to consider a reframe. What if you are not too much? What if you are exactly the right amount, and you have just been in the wrong containers? Think about a plant that needs a lot of sunlight. If you put i Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/our-daily-reminders--7063018/support. This Episode is Brought to you by: 🎵 Uppbeat — music for creators ✍️ Willow — your writing partner 🔊 ElevenLabs — lifelike AI voiceovers for creators 🎙️ Noota — The best transcription and AI Meeting Zoom alternative! 💼 Moxie — invoicing, CRM, projects, expenses, proposals and time tracking for freelancers. ✨ Castmagic — turn audio into content with presets and community prompts. 📡 FeedPress — podcast hosting, stats and feed tools for serious podcasters ──────── ❤️ Support Our Daily Reminders! Supporter Club: HERE · Patreon: HERE