Toolbox: Check-ins

Episode 4 of the Resist + Renew podcast, where we get our nerd on about "check-ins" as a facilitation tool: what they are, when they're useful, and their limitations. 'Notice what intention you have when you're trying to do a check in, and bring that intention as much as you can into the way that you hold the space.' - Katherine Show notes, links Find "Check-in" on Seeds for Change's tools page. See our "What is facilitation?" podcast episode page for more general facilitation resources. Transcript Ali: This is Resist + Renew. Kat: A UK-based podcast about social movements. Sami: What we're fighting for, why, and how it all happens. Ali: The hosts of the show are: Kat: Me Kat, Sami: Me, Sami, Ali: and me, Ali, Sami: I'm recording this now baby Ali: Shit it's a podcast. *Laughter* Sami: Okay, so welcome to the toolbox from Resist + Renew. This is a podcast where we geek out about different tools in our facilitation toolbox, what they are when they’re useful, and their limitations. And today we are talking about check ins. So first things first, what are check ins. So like check ins are a name that we use for kind of tools where people can share how people are doing. And within the context of a meeting or a workshop. often they're used at the start of a workshop, but not entirely. And they can also be a useful tool to check in on how people are feeling in the middle of something after lunch after something stressful happened at the end, etc. And they are generally used to help facilitators and potentially other people get an eye on how people are doing and like how people engage how people respond to questions, etc. and can be depending on how they are used a good way to like build connection within groups and build that relationship with them groups. And one thing that people often do, which is like a crossover between check ins and icebreakers is often people will as a check in have a kind of like icebreaker question, because it's a very low intensity way into a workshop. So for example, like, What's your favourite vegetable? Or why'd you like autumn, or whatever? And so that's what a check in is. Anyone else have anything else to describe the check in before we move into a little bit of an example? Ali: Often, like a go round format as well, it's not, it's usually not just like, open space, and everyone chuck in and stuff. It like tends to be in a circle format. Just I think that's mostly to make it flow easier, and to make the threshold for speaking as low as possible, as well. So that's what a check in is. And yeah, I'm just going to share a little story about like examples of when, or an example of when we've I've used one. So a couple of years ago, a few friends came over to my mum's farm in Wales, and it wasn't like a workshop thing. But it was kind of hybrid holiday hybrid hangout and work, have discussions kind of space. So it's pretty low pressure situation. Yeah, we had, we had offerings of discussions, we had fun tasks to do around but it wasn't like, there was any, like, major purpose. And every day, we just had a check in for like, an hour or two is pretty chill. And I think it just added to the vibe, changed it from like just hanging out to something a bit more collective, something a bit more hearing about where everyone is at. And yeah, that was good. And I think, though there was no, there was no intention to do anything particularly difficult. But like people did bring up some like, intense stuff. And I think that's like, partly because we had a space for that. So yeah, it's kind of nice. Anyone else want to add anything? example wise? Kat: I mean, I feel like that is a really lovely example. And I wonder like whether those people that were there maybe had some experience of check ins and, and why we might use them. And I guess a lot of the experience I've had of check ins in groups where they've not worked so well, has been like, maybe people don't really know what they're for, or don't really feel maybe safe enough to share, or don't really want to share anything other than quite a surface level. And then if you do a go round, and everyone says I'm fine, great I’m glad, is that true? And if it isn't true, is there a way that attacking is going to help you share deeper, like it's almost like it's a signal for where the group is at in terms of how much it wants to share with each other. And then in that sense can be useful. But sometimes it can get quite formulaic because I kind of wonder what the conditions might be that help a check in do what it's supposed to do. And if there if there was anything you noticed about that group in Wales, or the way you use check ins when they do work is to what makes them work. Ali: Hmm, good question. I guess I'm glad what comes up for me and that is like the context so like, I can imagine and maybe I've seen it many Yeah, I haven't but like in like a work setting where there's like a hierarchy, and there's like a expectation to be productive and expectation to, like, perform a certain way like that there's less of bandwidth for bringing your whole self and the negative stuff that you're having that day. So if you're gonna say, like, I feel like total shit, and I don't want to do my work, your boss isn't gonna want to hear that, I guess, like the willingness for the group to be able to hear it or like the perception that the group is able to hear it is maybe a condition. Sami: And I think it kind of goes back to that question of what the purposes right like, often the purpose of check ins is not necessarily to know how people are doing, it's to know how, how much people feel able to or into the idea of feeling how they're doing. Like, and that's, you don't necessarily get an eye on how they're feeling and their internal state, but you do get an eye and are willing to share their internal state they are, which is a useful thing as a facilitator in terms of and how you frame the rest of the workshop. And if your plan was to do loads of like, kind of, to go straight in quickly to some kind of like, quite experiential, like feelings based stuff, and you did do a go around that everyone was like, I'm fine, then you'd be like, Okay, I think maybe we're gonna need to get any to add some stuff in and maybe do some kind of breathing stuff, make people feel settled, blah, blah, blah, I don't know, whatever. And, and the thing, actually, like a thing, which comes to mind based on these stories is like, I was part of a group once a group of people who I didn't know around like a kind of squatted social centre project. And, and one of the things that we did coz, it was like, a, it was like a 24 seven, like, political squat. So it's like quite an intense time - ntense, kind of arena. And, and one thing that we did was at the end of every kind of like we, in the day, we do like activities, workshops, things like that. And then like, at the end of the day, we'd all have a little check in just in terms of like, how we're doing etc, before we go into like, any kind of like, dinner, or also like evening discussions and whatever. And that was often the thing, that one that people said that they like, valued most about the space was just being involved in a space where people actually give a shit about how other people were feeling. Like, and that was one of the things that then like the people that came out of that space, like then did a lot of other things afterwards, etc, together, because like the kind of bond that was created by actually just giving a shit about each other as people, even if you'd haven't met the person before, like a couple of days ago, just like really helped kind of like lay that groundwork. So that's, I guess, one of the examples of where it can build connection. But there is a willingness there, right, like people are also open to it. Kat: Absolutely. I mean, that that sounds really great. I guess, there's some scenarios where it can be pitched in a way that can feel like limiting of connection. And so there was a group I was part of, once we're in the check in meetings, the pitch of what you were allowed to share in the Tekken was explicitly named as like, not too intense. And, and examples were given around the not too intense level of check in, which was like, “I went to the dentist today, and it was a bit uncomfortable”. And it's that sense of like, oh, wow, I'm really not allowed, like, even if I wanted to, I'm really not really supposed to share very much. And so there's also some questions, I would say if like, if you're really not up for hearing, don't do a check in as like a sham form of like wanting to care for each other if you're not really interested. Because I think that's more harmful than not having the check in at all. So yeah, getting clarity around the purpose of the check in and if you're really up for whatever comes. And I think it's really important. Ali: Yeah. And I guess that leads to the next point we had, which is around when things do come up, then what you do with it is important. So like, if everyone says they're tired, and can't focus, and then the facilitator is just like, “Okay, thanks for that. Next point on the agenda”. Let's, we've got five things to talk about, we have to do it. That kind of invalidates the whole point of doing it. And it just shows it to be a sham, like you said, so I think like, yeah, we have to be, should be responsive to like what people say, and like, if everyone's on a bad on a bad day, then maybe we just don't, don't have a meeting or do something different. And if you're listening to our podcasts, and you can check out our episode from Josina from LION, because they gave a example of that where they were going to have a strategy session. And it was a really intense time. And then they were like, we don't want to do this. Let's have some connection, spiritual time. Can’t remember what they did,...